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writes:So this guy was flirting with me. We were texting and talking about the movie I just watched. Then he said "If you're free we can do something maybe... ;)" Did he mean sex? And how should I react to it? This msg just kinda popped out of nowhere. 'Cause if he did mean sex then I am so offended.
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reader, Anonymous 123  +, writes (29 November 2013):
 Maybe not sex, but he was suggesting making out for sure. You said were flirting with each other and the wink was a dead giveaway.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 November 2013): People use emoticons and chat abbreviations, and leave it up to the receiver to interpret. They have general meanings; but you have to define the meaning by context.
It's hard to tell but it looks like you indicated a semicolon (;),followed by ")" the left-end symbol of a parenthesis.
That indicates the author is giving you a "wink and a smile." He wanted ambiguity in the comment; so you could pick up whatever meaning you wanted. It could be an invitation to a sexual rendezvous, or anything you might consider a pleasure.
Don't over-react. Simply ask. "Can you clarify what you mean by that?" Had you been looking for a hookup, you would have suggested that. If you're not, then you could have filled in the blank. Misinterpretation could then be blamed on you.
That's why phone conversations and face to face dating tops
text messaging, and e-mailing online, any day. You see facial expressions, body language, or you can judge by tone or pauses in conversation.
I hope you're on a well-secured and reputable dating site.
Even then, there are no guarantees. Profiles are more likely to be screened for accuracy. Some do background checks.
Don't offer or accept invitations from people online until you know what you're dealing with. You never know when you're being setup by a predator; or played by someone who is married out for a quickie. I only said this, because I noticed you're very young. You may not have much experience at online dating.
Offers for hookups are what you get 90% of the time.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 November 2013): Was the movie about sex?
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (29 November 2013):
 I wouldn't ASSUME he meant sex. (though if it was after 10/11 pm then it could have been.)
All you had to say was well, take me out on a date then...
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 November 2013): If the movie you were talking about was full of sex or if you'd discussed a particularly sexy scene then I might believe it was an invite for sexual activity.
Otherwise he could just be sounding you out for a date.
I guess the only way to find out would be to text him back and ask him what he has in mind.
If he answers with direct sexual overtures or with further hinting and winking rather than actually arranging a date (or at least a meet up at work/college/whatever) then you can decline him.
If he asks you out and you like him then that would be great.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (29 November 2013):
 what time of day was the text?
after 10 pm yeah probably meant sex but I would not jump to conclusions...
has he ever asked you out on a "real date" (that means planning and asking in advance).. if not... well then that's not a good sign...
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reader, M Proops  +, writes (29 November 2013):
He could've worded his text in a better way.Text him back and say "did you mean coffee?"what was the film about?
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reader, Aunty BimBim  +, writes (29 November 2013):
 Unless the movie and the flirting were full of hot torrid sexy talk there is no reason to assume the guy was suggesting sex. He might have meant get a coffee, see a movie, or just get together and catch up.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 November 2013): It's probably open to your own interpretation.
If you don't want to then you could suggest something else and just play dim :D
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