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writes:I was friends with this girl for over a year. One of my close friends told me that she wanted to hook up with me, so i decided to ask her on a date. I did, and she didn't give me an answer but was really nervous. She then told me later that she wanted to be my girlfriend, but it would have to be casual because things were so busy. She ignored me and was weird for like 2 weeks. Every time I asked her to come do something (like a movie), she would just avoid me. She then got drunk one day at a bar with tons of friends around and made out with me. I kinda tried to stop her, but i had so much to drink and just really wanted to kiss her. A few days later she told me that she wanted to go back to being just friends (aka break up). I asked her why she was being so weird and stuff, and she said that she wasn't and that the time was bad. It's two months later now and she is dating this other guy. When I've been around her now, I see her again drinking and making out with this guy. I honestly don't get it. What the hell happened? Did she actually like me or what? She seemed so normal and cool before I asked her out. I was really starting to like her. Now I seriously hate her. Could the fact that she's moving soon have had an affect on her behavior?
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 June 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for your responses. Still I don't understand though. To me, it is simple. If you like someone, and you know they like you, you should want to be with them as much as possible until you go. Therefore, since she avoided and dumped me, she probably just doesn't like me.
What I don't understand is why she appeared to like me before. I'm not a stupid guy, and I won't go around believing a girl likes me unless I have really good evidence.
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reader, Oceania  +, writes (21 June 2008):
 time is bad?haha that girl has problems.MY advise, move on, forget her, and start to go out with your friends, hit the bars or clubs and find some ladies. She is not worth it.Maybe she doesnt want to get attached with someone right now. Probably she just wants to have fun and get drunk and kiss guys. Dont feel bad or anything. Its not you, its her. I know it sounds cliche :P buts its true for this situation :) chill out.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 June 2008): I agree with "pepper 27" she is probably doing this as she is moving; trying not to get to attached; as for you, vow, I know it hurts, but rather now; vow, if you had to get closer and more involved and she moved away; the hurt and pain would be much worse;
I suggest you remember her as a good friend; and MOVE On;
somewhere out there is the right girl for you; go find her!
Good luck!
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reader, LilzDon'tKnow  +, writes (21 June 2008):
 i think she was confused or just looking for something to pass the time. As a result she found someone with more in common. would recomend just trying to move on, if she wants you again she'll come back.
~Hope This Helps~
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reader, pepper27 +, writes (21 June 2008):
 Hi Hunny
You mention that she is going away this could have something to do with it very much, Maybe she just does not want to get to close to anyone at this moment because if she is leaving in her eyes it would be maybe to painfull..She seems to drink alot and get off with guys quite easy so it sounds as if she is just having a good time before she goes love..I wouldnt take it to much to heart although I realise you did like her very much and deep down probably still do. You only say you hate her because you are hurt because of her behaviour and the way she treated you love..Plus seeing her with some other guy must eat you apart..She could have carried on seeing you hunny and two months down the line cared for you alot so she chose to maybe ignore those feeling that could develop and just have fun untill she leaves..Im sorry for your pain hunny TAKE CARE WITH LOVE MANDY XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX
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