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*alan007
writes:I have been with my wife for about 2 years total and one year married. I love my wife more then life itself, and we have a baby on the way. However, a past relationship she had with one of her friends (who is a girl) has always vexed me.Just before I started dating my wife, she and her friend 'Lydia' lived in an apartment by themselves. They had a very close relationship. So close that it took me a while to ask her out at first because I thought she might be gay. Later on I would come to find out that my now wife and 'Lydia' literally did everything together. They would sleep (and snuggle) in the same bed almost every night. They would occasionally say "I love you" to one another, and they both ('Lydia' moreso than my wife) wrote a few love-esque letters pertaining to why she liked/loved her so much... Both girls are in their 20's mind you. And to cap it off, when we first started dating, 'Lydia' was blatantly jealous that I was spending more time with my wife then she was (neither had been in any type of relationship for nearly a year prior.)I often joke with my wife about how she used to be a lesbian, but she adamantly refuses ever having done anything sexual with 'Lydia'. She says that they were just friends, and that it's common for two girls, who are friends, to act in this manner... She tends to get quite upset if I press the issue too much.So in a nutshell, my question is if it's normal for two straight women roommates to act.... Like that?
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reader, Galan007 +, writes (11 May 2010):
Galan007 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionDon't get me wrong, it's not something that bothers me... I just was unfamiliar that it's common for two girl-friends to act that affectionately with one another.
And I don't want anyone to think I always poke fun at the subject with my wife. I don't. It only ever got brought up in the past when we'd playfully 'shit talk' with each other (as many couples do.) But once I saw that it upset her, I stopped immediately.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 May 2010): Why are you picking at this now?
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (11 May 2010):
 If they didn't kiss or have any sexual contact they weren't in a relationship. Friends get jalous when their friend spends less time with them as well. If your wife gets upset when you joke about her being a lesbian I think you should stop joking about it! I dont believe she sees herself anywhere close to being interested in women that way, and your words can be very hurtful.
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reader, mizz.butterflies +, writes (11 May 2010):
 She's not gay. I got a very good friend I cuddle with and tell her I love her. It's a girls thing. Don't be so curious and enjoy ur wife.
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reader, bruce lee  +, writes (11 May 2010):
 Well, as they say...There are all sorts of reasons why people live together.I wouldn't read into it too much.
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reader, rcn +, writes (11 May 2010):
 It's normal for two girls who are close friends to display behaviors that two guys who are close friends would be called gay if they did the same. My ex, when she and her friend were running on a tight schedule to head to the club or something would jump in the shower together, and just as friends. Confusing, yes, but girls will be girls and guys will always rack their brains trying to figure them out.
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