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writes:My gf was out of town and went out to dinner, then to a bar and then to a movie with a male coworker her age and single. Is this a date?hint: they have partied before
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 July 2007): Who could possibly ever know whether or not your girlfriend went on a date based on one sentence!
There are obviously massive trust issues for you to have to ask a question like this. No one on here knows your girlfriend, nor you, and so it would be impossible to tell you whether or not she went on date.
She could have been cheating on you, or she could have had an innocent night out with a co-worker. Either is possible. You are the best person to know which one of the two it is, and you will know this knowing your girlfriend better.
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reader, eddie  +, writes (25 July 2007):
 OK, I'll assume they were out of town together on business....? If they were, what were her options? Go out to dinner by herself, followed by a night in the room, by herself? Or, go out to eat with another "person" who's she's traveling with, the go to a movie because there's nothing else to do?
Here's the problem, based on the theory she is trust worthy. Because you're acting jealous, you see the dinner as a candle lit affair in a dark restaurant followed by a drink in a bar. You imagine them sitting across the table looking into each others eyes. You're painting the worst possible picture because it fuels your fire of jealousy. Then to top it off, they went and sat side by side in a dark theatre.....
Was it a date? No. It was an incident of convenience. You say they have "partied " before. What do you mean by that? It sounds like you're a little jaded about this. If you were away with some coworkers and you had no bad intentions, would you dine with them? Of course. Were they flirting or was it a possible scenario for trouble. Sure it was. Do you trust her?????
Would you have felt better if you demanded she stay in her room and talk to nobody because you were insecure and thought she was looking for sex. I'd bet that demand would have gone over like a lead balloon. So once again, it's only a date when they're together because of mutual interest in each other. Would he sleep with her if she gave him the opportunity. Probably, but he would probably sleep with any woman that offered, not just her. The thing is, he knew the terms of the evening.
How do I know all this. I've done it. You're painting a mental picture that will sink you. You start to believe it and then the trouble begins. My first clue was that you're referring to her outing as a "date". That tells me where you mind is at. I'd also bet you were uncomfortable about her going away even before she left.
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reader, chrissy32789 +, writes (25 July 2007):
 I would not really say it was a date, They are just coworkers that like to go out and have fun, Dont worrie about anything inless you find reasons that she is cheating on you, then talk to her about it but if nothing is going on then just let it be and if it is bothering you that much then talk to her and let her know how you feel!
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