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writes:I'm scared I can't get over him, after our split which was nearly 6 days ago, he's already moved on with going back to his ex having already slept with her, meeting her after work and stuff, so guess he's already moved on leaving me feeling really down and always thinking about him, did I do wrong with me keep asking questions about her, but then he said to me that he still loves her and wanted to be back with her and that he has feelings for me but never loved me.Was it me pushing him further to her or was it him?Guys please help me I feel so bad.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 October 2008): you have to go through this process to move on properly, it happens and you have to deal with it and move on
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reader, shiraz +, writes (19 October 2008):
Hiyah, it seems to me he's always loved her and anyone could come along and it would still be her, it's not you at all. It's normal to be insecure about his ex's and I think maybe you asking didn't help but you certainly didn't push them back together. He said he's never loved you, that just proves it's not you as a person or what you've said and done he simply loves another. It's so hard to hear but everyone finds that someone and you will find yours eventually, it just takes time. Don't feel bad, if he's moved on after 6 days his feelings weren't that deep and I doubt he knows he's still hurting you. You will get over him, you just need to start being uyourself again rather than staying insecure and thinking there's no other love cuz there is out there! Dont let this get you down and it's going to hurt for a bit but rather than dwelling on it and living in what could be and what went wrong, learn from it to stop it affecting your future relationships. Start building yourself up more and you will gradually move away from him, if it was real love for you the feeling will remain for sometime but you need to use each day as a way of getting on with your life. He's gone now and moved on you're still focussed on what he's doing and your past, focus on the future, your future that you're going to make yourself, like he has, just slower. Don't panic, it will get better love hurts sometimes and crappy as it is now, it will ease, best of luck :) x
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