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writes:Hi. I need help to figure out this guy's behavior. We have been friends since a long time now and went out on dates as well. We never had a physical rel but he knew I was into him. He is an introvert and too shy to even ask me out for dates. He seemed interested to be FWB and nothing more. Everytime I tried to get flirty or romantic, he would change the topic to sex. But last night he went to vegas and got really drunk. I texted him asking about his clubbing and his response was - I love you. I assumed he is out of his senses and probably kidding but his reply to my second text was again - love you. I know he won't ever admit it when he is sober. He says he is an introvert and not good at confessions and stuff. Does it mean anything or should I dismiss this as meaningless drunken behavior? ps- He wanted to meet me recently but when told him I'll be busy. he said he just wants to spend time with me. I can't figure him out.
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reader, Amycoffeegirl  +, writes (26 July 2016):
I think is is always risky to trust what someone says when they are drunk (or under the influence of anything).
I agree with honeypie on this one, he may just want to see if he can get you to drop your panties.
See if you can get him out for coffee and bring up the subject. Maybe he really meant it, but to me, it is just to hard to trust drunken displays of affection.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (26 July 2016):
 Ah so he is too shy to ask you out on dates, but not shy at all in turning everything from romantic to sexual ?
Strange kind of shyness.
He may be an introvert, in the sense he may not be very effusive, very talkative, - yet it seems to me that he knows very well what he wants and he makes it known openly and clearly.
Don't start any head trips : he was DRUNK. And he was kidding or pulling your leg. Likely, there was a bunch of his homies around him egging him on and laughing it up. If he suggested or hinted FWB- love , or shyness, have got nothing to do with it; he wants sex.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (26 July 2016):
 My guess is he is trying the line "I love you" to see if it will make you drop your panties.
So many women go a little ga-ga when they hear "I love you" because WHO doesn't like to be told they are loved?
If you do NOT want some kind of casual sexual/FWB thing with him, ignore the texts. IF HE brings it up, suggest he take you out on a date.
Words are cheap, texting "romantic notions" are cheap.
I think saying I love you over text FOR THE FIRST time is meaningless. If he can type I love you, he can type :"want to go out for dinner Friday?"
Being an introvert doesn't mean the only means of interaction is through texting.
Personally? I'd leave this guy me. You have already sussed out that "He seemed interested to be FWB and nothing more." Which means... HE WANTS sex but nothing more (with you). Which means... he is wasting your time if you are looking for a relationship.
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