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writes:Ok.. I am in some desperate need of advice. I just started dating one of my sisters friends. I met him a while ago but have only been talking to him for like 4 days. There is a strong sexual connection between us and really thats the only reason we were going to hook up. Even though we haven't had sex yet. I called him yesterday morning and got his voicemail.. So I decided to leave him, well a really freaky message. Basically, orgasmed on his voicemail. I haven't heard from him since. He has his own business and is extremely busy. I thought most men were into stuff like that. Who wouldn't want one of those messages during the day? Am I just trippin or did I scare him away?
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 April 2008): Your message does sound a bit heavy. Maybe he feels frightened off! Such an intimate message might in future be best left till after you have had sex.
You can't generalise about what guys like. Each guy is different. He could be put off by it. Or even think you are doing it on your own so don't need him!
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 April 2008): Well, I am sure he got your message loud and clear and would have called you up for a booty call after only talking to him for 4 days.....maybe he is wondering how many other men you have left messages for of that nature....and went out to buy some penicillan....
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reader, madflash +, writes (18 April 2008):
 Actually, it depends on a lot of factors how I would feel.
Mostly though, I think it would be really flattering, and kool to get a message like that. Maybe it would turn me on, or maybe I'd just think, "Wow, this chick is nuts. I'm definitely getting a piece of that!"
There might be more to this than meets the eye however. What if he's the shy type, or not into wild women like I am? He might be very quiet and reserved in bed, and he might like women who remain quiet and submissive as well. Your message really might have scared him off if that's the case. He could be intimidated by you and want to avoid you, either because he's terrified and not attracted anymore, or because he's terrified and more attracted than ever.
You really do have to ask him what he thought about it. Every guy is different.
I wouldn't sweat it though. If this guy is anything like most guys... he enjoyed it and either can't get away from work, or just hasn't had enough time to come up with a good enough or clever enough response.
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reader, Wisdom  +, writes (18 April 2008):
 Did he know it was from you? Are you sure that he was as into you as you think? I would just call him and see what is going on.
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reader, Collaroy +, writes (18 April 2008):
 Well all I can say is, if a girl I was interested in left a message for me where she orgasms - I would consider myself a very lucky man.
Busy or no, the least he could have done was praise you for your efforts. I am very disappointed in this guy, he's let the team down.
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