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writes:i met this guy on plenty of fish coming up to a year in september we havent met yet but we do talk all the time via txt or phone, We have been meaning to meet but for various reasons, different jobs and place we live, it never seem to happen, anyway last nite i asked him via txt when was the last time he had slept with anyone and he replied b4 we had been talking, he then replied if u dont trust be or belive me then i can f**k off aint it ok.I replied i do trust u, then this morning he said ok, then i said fancy meeting today and he said im not meeting u, im gonna football, then he said even if he did go by my place we wouldnt meet cuz i think hes been sleeping with someone else. So then he said he might as well go and do it, then i asked him if he still likes me cuz i still like him, he replied why, and havent heard anything off him since, i rang him but his phone was off so i txt him, saying have a gd day at football, and speak to u when u want to, But now im feeling really guilty have i really done wrong with what i said Reply to this Question
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reader, RedAthena  +, writes (20 August 2011):
 Maybe you have been wasting your time in a deadend situation.
It is not really a relationship, but more of an arrangement that you two have on the phone and via texts.
Nothing has moved forward in almost a year of knowing him?
Sure you deserve to get to know someone who wants to see your smiling face while you get together and get to know eachother? :D
Best Wishes.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 August 2011): He's just a stupid jerk and a liar.
Why don't you just move on? The relationship doesn't seem to be going anywhere and he seems rude, and you shouldn't be with that kind of person.
Just get over him and move on, okay?
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (20 August 2011):
 he over reacted because he LIED either he is or he is not having sex with someone else.
not meeting someone for a YEAR when you have the chance says he's just playing.
move on.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 August 2011): Something is wrong with this whole relationship. Texting and talking on the phone for a year and not meeting is not normal. His reaction is bad news, it suggests he is sleeping with others, otherwise he could just tell you when the last time was. I would move on and find someone who you can have a real life relationship with.
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reader, Kyle007 +, writes (20 August 2011):
You never said you thought that he was sleeping with someone else. You just asked when the last time he did it was.You may have hit too close to home on something.When people begin relationships, asking about sexual history is an intelligent thing to do. In just about every intimate relationship I have had with someone, I have and she has talked about all the exes we have had. Sometimes I have done that on a first date even if we never saw each other again.There are so many possibilities in the dating life. Even once you get a man's attention, there is no guarantee that it will even go beyond a first date.What you are doing with this one guy, dragging it on so long even though you have not met him, is prolonging your search for romantic happiness.What are you afraid of? Meet some new people in the real (as opposed to cyber) world. You don't owe him any loyalty.
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reader, Battista +, writes (20 August 2011):
I don't think you should really feel bad- I think he has seriously over-reacted.
Not only that but I think it's really nasty that he should say you can f**k off if you don't believe him; to me that is really aggressive and rude. I wouldn't let someone talk (or text) me like that.
I don't understand why he has reacted to badly to this question- unless you have asked him about this sort of thing many times before?
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