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writes:Okay, so it's kind of a long and confusing story, but I'll try my best to explain it. Last April, I started seeing a new guy that I really really liked. Throughout the ENTIRE time that we were together my ex boyfriend that I dated for two years was constantly texting me and calling me and calling him and threatening him and acting crazy basically. Then around the beginning of June when things between me and the new guy got more serious I really started to pull away, because of everything thats happened in the past with me and my ex boyfriend, and also because he was going away to university in september. Anyways, we ended things, and I ended up going back to my ex. Me and my ex ended things right away because I knew he wasn't the guy I wanted, and I kept thinking about how much I screwed up with the guy I'd been seeing. I thought about him for literally months but I didn't work up the courage to text him until about a month ago because of how nasty the split was. But anyways, we've been talking a lot, and getting closer, but I don't know if he wants it to go any further than just friends because of all the mixed signals he's been sending me. Like one day he'll be talking about hanging out and cuddling and stuff, and the next day he won't talk to me at all. After about two weeks it also seemed like a lot of our conversations would turn into dirty conversations, and I was going to ask him about it, but when I asked if I could ask him a question he responded with an "Sounds like a complicated question.. One thats probably going to be pretty hard to answer too, but shoot." And I ended up not asking him because it just seemed like he knew what I was thinking. We stopped talking for a few days after that, and when we started talking again we both acted like that conversation had never happened, and things seem good, but my question is do you guys think I ruined my chances? And if you have any advice that would really come in handy too. I know its long but I really appreciate any input. Thanks guysss.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (5 December 2009):
I think it sounds like he does like you, but really doesn't want to get hurt again. I think you can afford to tell him you like him, because if you don't you'll never know how he feels, and it's far better to take a chance than not. Tell him how you feel and take it from there.
And I hope you've cut contact with your appalling ex as well.
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