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writes:I have been getting a great girl online.We skyped for the first time on Friday.There was an akward moment when I offered to play some music for her, and it made her uncomfortable. I said it was ok, but then I think she felt she'd upset me so said I could play. In the end I didn't and tried to move on.There was another awkward moment at the end of our call when her mother appeared and I got a bit tense andI May have come over a bit rude in my slight moment of nervousness. .I was all over the place When she jokingly said "Wanna say hi to my mom? " I was a bit panicky and put on a jokey horrified face...maybe that was misinterpreted. Maybe I misinterpreted and she wasn't joking when she wanted me to say hi. I waved but didn't say hi. Now since Friday evening I have heard nothing from her even though she's been online. I have messaged her a few times to apologise over the music thing, but not heard back. Do I do nothing, or I do wait a bit and apologise for maybe being rude towards her or her mother?
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 November 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI don't know why, but this STILL bothers me.
All I want is an explanation.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 July 2012): I understand your frustration, but that is how people are, you were not something serious and she probably wanted to avoid making you feel bad. Just move on, if she is inmature enough to be turned off by a song or soemthing silly then she was not for you. Talk to other girls! ;)
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 July 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI feel upset that she's said nothing - she could have at least said she isn't into me any more.
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reader, no nonsense Aidan  +, writes (8 July 2012):
Here’s a suggestion: write one more message, explaining both your concern that you offended her over playing some music to her (which incidentally sounds like a rather nice thing to have done), and your concern that you were rude to her mother. Explain that, as it was the first time you’d spoken on Skype, you felt a bit awkward and nervous but that you apologise for any offence caused. Go on to explain that you enjoyed the conversation, and that you’d like to do it again sometime if she’d be interested. Conclude by saying that you hope she’s okay, and look forward to hearing from her if she wants to keep in touch. After that, there’s nothing more you can do, forget about her unless you get a response.
I wish you all the very best.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 July 2012): You weren't rude, the music thing is not really a big deal. Guys play music for me all the time, maybe she thought you were getting to attached. Honestly I would try to let some days go by, and then say "hi" to her, if she doe snot answer, let her go, she will talk to you when she wants to. Honestly it does not sound like you did anything wrong.
So yeah if she does not answer after a few days, it's time to let go because you will reek like a desperate clingy guy and that is a turn off for women.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 July 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI should say, been getting TO TALK TO a great girl.
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