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writes:Lately I've been baking a lot and I take some of the cookies and stuff to church. I gave some of the cookies to this guy and later he came over while I was talking to my friend to say thanks. I wasn't really paying attention and I quickly brushed him off with a "You're welcome, bye-bye!" He was stunned for a while and looked sort of shocked and surprised, and a bit hurt. He left quickly after that. The next week I talked to him, and then the week after I baked more cookies.I had some cookies left over and I asked if anyone would like to eat them. Everyone in the room shook their heads, and he said across the room, "You seem to have a lot of free time! I get to eat your cookies every week."(There were three other girls in the room at the time, and one of them has a crush on him.) I was kind of taken aback and a bit mad at that point, and I told him "Then don't eat them every week! It's my hard work!" After a bit he replied "But they're nice." Later on when I saw him downstairs with his friends he ignored me when I spoke to his circle of friends and he had his back towards me. His best friend talked to me for quite some time instead.Do you think I offended him? I'm feeling quite guilty over the way I've been treating him, especially since the two incidents happened so close together. I'm not sure what I'm going to say the next time I see him.
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reader, chalybseris +, writes (1 December 2007):
Hi, I'm the original poster of this question. Thank you all for answering! =D I was thinking of apologizing for my behavior, but I thought it would be kind of awkward, especially since I don't exactly know him - we've spoken a grand total of about 15 lines since the beginning of the year. That's why I was quite taken aback when he addressed me with those lines when I'd usually laugh the whole incident off with a "Yeah, share the fat!"He's 23 and I'm not quite 18 yet, so I think the "like" part is quite impossible, and especially considering that we don't talk much.
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reader, eddie  +, writes (30 November 2007):
 You were rude and probably embasrassed him by dismissing him so abruptly. Start fresh and see what happens. Are you interested in him?
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reader, Absolutioness  +, writes (30 November 2007):
 I would bake few extra cookies next time you go to church & when it's time to give them away I'd go towards him and offer cookies with an apology. Because as you yourself said he looked a bit shocked & hurt, and seems like his opinion about you matters to you, so it'd be my best bet and see if you then can talk and if it gets better.
Good Luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 November 2007): He is probably shy and he did a fumbled attempt at talking to you and you knocked him back. Just try the next time to be a bit more friendly and warm in your answers, the last one was a bit cold. Warm up and you may find him wanting more than cookies.
take care
xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 November 2007): go with the one above.i like their answer but if doesn't work u should just anor him and pretend you never talked to him.guys are stupid so don't feel bad...^_^
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reader, jm81690 +, writes (30 November 2007):
 He took it wrong obviously, he probably thinks you dislike him, and it sounds like he likes you.
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reader, birdynumnums +, writes (30 November 2007):
 Yep. Although you didn't mean to, you were a bit brusk with him. His awkward "You seem to have a lot of free time" was a clumsy attempt at flirting (if he's roughly in the same age bracket) and I would have been taken aback a bit too. Never mind, I'm quite sure his intention was simply to open a conversation with you. Don't worry too much about it, but you do owe him a bit of conversation, and it's YOUR turn to open it this time. I'm sure it will patch things up in a jiffy. Aren't you wonderful to share your baking with the congregation, I'm sure they all appreciate it. Nice!
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