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writes:So I was dating this guy that I was friends with for two years...just to give you a little bit of a background, his best friend and I were 'sleeping together' for 6 years...he knew coming into the relationship that I was with him but one night when we were having sex he pushed me off and told me all he could see in his head was me and the guy...he said he didn't know if he could continue on but he decided to...we also had issues with me going to the bar with my friends...he said that it wasn't right..we just go there to dance and stuff so I never really saw the big deal, but we came to an agreement that we would go together...i fell deeply in love with him and ignored all of his quirks...finally we got into a really big argument resulting in him telling me that he doesn't know if he can believe a word I say and expressing his doubts in the relationship...I decided to temporarily break up with him so that we could sort out our issues...I told him that I didn't want it to end forever...did I make the wrong decision by temp. breaking up with him? it hasn't even been 2 weeks and he told me that he's over me and that he is involved with another girl..keep in mind that we talked about moving in together, being each other's soulmates, telling each other they were 'the one', and just loving each other unconditionally...i seriously do still love him and I never really thought about the reprecussions when I made the decision...I did it out of haste believing that it was the right choice but clearly it wasn't...how do I get him back!?!?!?
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reader, duskyrowe  +, writes (19 May 2008):
 I bet if his best friend had been a random guy he had never met, he would not be feeling this way would he?
He is clearly threatened by his friend who had a reltionship with you before him. My advice is never date two men that are good friends with eachother.
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reader, Minelisse  +, writes (19 May 2008):
 Sometimes we make bad decisions, but then, sometimes we make bad decisions to turn out to be the best. I know this will sound harsh, but if in less than two weeks this soul mate, love of your life, destined to be together guy has moved on with someone else and says he is over you, then this is the best possible outcome!
Give time to time to see if he is just making you feel bad or if he really moved on. If he did, then is time to turn the page and wait for something better comes along your way.. it always does!
Best of lucks.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 May 2008): i wouldnt know from experience, but it could be possible he may still be angry at you and want to make you jealous. chances are, he isnt over you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 May 2008): You poor thing.
I know it's probably not what you want to hear, but its sounds as though he has seriously messed you around.
You sais that you were "loving each other unconditionally". It sounds as though you were loving him unconditionally, definatley, but it does not sound like he loved you inconditionally.
I don't think you made the wrong decision. It felt right to you at the time.
I would try and get over him. You have been with him for a long time and it should take a long time to get over him. It sounds as though he is trying to hurt you by saying that he has moved on and is already with someone else. I know that that is one of the hardest things you could ever hear from someone who loves you.
I think only more pain could be caused for you in this relationship.
I hope things turn out the best for you.
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