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writes: I have a huge crush on this guy from my local store. I go in and out all the time to try and chat with him but there is always people there.I'm quite shy and my mother is old fashioned so she brought me up to believe that guys should make the first move, so there was not much I could do. She would guilt trip me if I did anything, I wanted to so much though. Last night however I was out after college with my friend in the bar next door to the shop. I had one too many, got confidence and strolled into the shop and asked one of the other staff members about the guy (he was off), that I thought he was cute and I also asked did he have a girlfriend (he's single woo hoo!).The other staff member (a girl) asked would I like to leave my number for him to text me. I said yes. She got me to write it down and to be honest I was over delighted!!!My mam was a bit put out by the whole thing though, but none of my friends were, they thought it was great!I'm not sure how I feel about the whole thing. My mother as usual was guilt tripping me saying that I would regret it and so on... However to be honest I'm not! I'm kinda glad! If I hadn't done anything I'd be wondering and thinking too much about how this guy would notice me.Did I do the wrong thing? Or did I do the right thing?Will this guy text me back?
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 December 2011): Firstly, Way to go girl, I think it's great you made the first move. I made the first move on a guy who I liked, we have now been together for a little over a year and we are very happy. Some Men find it extremely attractive to see a confident girl who can make the first move. Just make sure that if he does text you he doesn't leave it to you to make all the effort, and think he has all the power over you. Good Luck with it.
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reader, xTheAlmightyDuckx  +, writes (30 November 2011):
 First of all by no means at all are your mothers views wrong but sometimes sitting around waiting for someone to make the first move or kind of catch on that you like them and do something about it can take forever or even not happen. I am a strong beleiver that if you want something/ or someone than don't miss the opportunity and get them before someone else does. I am sure your mother just wants to make sure that you are not too quick in making any longterm decisions and wants to make sure the guy who you end up with is confident enough and gentlemanly enough to make the first move. But you are an adult, and you have your own views aswell and you were confident enough (even if you did have a drink) to ask about this guy so don't be ashamed and give yourself a well deserved pat on the back! :)
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reader, moony20082011  +, writes (30 November 2011):
I don't think its a big matter with what u did but here's a little advise, in case he text u dont ever show him that u liked him, only u felt some thing good toward him that u'd like to share him (some talk) then u can check him closer, also i advise after luv dont ever (girls) pay ur virgin thing b4 the one who really deserve u come to take u all by asking 4 ur hand, if he didn,t text u dont ever fall sad, u will get the better one later.
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