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writes: I guess i'm just looking for a bit of reasurance that i've done the right thing. Long story short: one of my guy friends has a girlfriend but we ended up sleeping together a while back. I wish it hadn't happened but it did. He continued to flirt with me after this all the while staying with her and taking her on holiday, acting like the "good guy". 2 days ago i told him that we couldn't sleep together again because it wasn't fair on me, or her for that matter. He replied "does that mean it's all over? :(" i just replied "yes" and went offline. I haven't spoken to him since that and i know it was the right thing to do but a part of me feels guilty about it. Did i do the right thing? Was i horrible for telling him the way i did?
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 November 2010): You did the right thing.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 November 2010): I think you did the right thing. It must have taken a lot of courage to put an end to the situation, so you should be proud of yourself for that. You was not horrible in the way you told him. You were clear and to the point, but polite. He is the one who was not nice by stringing two girls along. I think with time your feelings will change, you will see the situation and him for what it was, and you will feel glad that you did what you did.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (2 November 2010):
 Guilty ? Why are you feeling guilty ?
You are not obliged to share your body with a guy if you are not comfortable doing it. It's not like you signed a contract to have sex with this guy. The moment you don't feel right doing it, it's over- no obligations, and no sense of guilt necessary.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 November 2010): ~ABSOLUTELY! YOU DID THE RIGHT THING!~And that he would continue flirting with you subsequent the incident and even think that he could easily treat you as nothing more than a side of meat speaks volumes of his lack of respect for you as well as his ill perception of your worth. I would bet he hasn't shared the encounter with the woman he insures to keep upon the pedestal.
No! Don't stand for a minute of it! Never reduce yourself to sloppy seconds and NO!..You have no reason at all to hang up on a person that is ashamed of you ((He hides your and his sexual relationship as not to break her heart. Well..what about yours?
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