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writes:This is my story. I came to know a girl by wrong number(she is 20 year), slowly we stared to like each other and she used to share everything to me( im 26)..i was feeling good ,she used to talk to me daily for 1-2 hours and i asked many time that she had a boyfriend ,she said no ,she didnt had..she told me about her old story that she was in love with a boy for five year ,when she was 14 year ,,he was in same school but was 3 year older to him ,they were in love and one day she came to know that boy was in affair with somebody else ,,,she keep on asking him to please don’t do it but he never listen and they broke off......then came a new guy in her life who was cousin of her love that boy let me call him by bf1...she used to call that cousin and ask him how was he...slowly they started to talk and one day that cousin let me call him 'bf 2'(23 year) in spite of knowing everything about this proposed that girl within feel days ...she was angry that why bf 1 did this to her and just to make him feel inferior she said yes to bf 2 .....now it was big pain for bf 1 and she was ok with it and cursed him for al his bad things.....but this bf 2 was not so understanding,she always have conflict with him ,,,,she is doing her engineering but he is just a bcom and having strong political family background but full of all bad quality ,that girl is very full of standard and high-fy..she told me one day that she just accepted that he is biggest mistake of life...Now me ...i was in constant touch with her as i told ...i thought she is single and i was involved with her one day i proposed her but one thing till this day i was not aware of bf 2 ....i was simple person she was first girl in my life and wanted to be with her ..........after 12 day she told about existence of bf 2 ,i was only aware of bf1 only till date ......i was shocked that how a girl can be so close to me ....i didnt want to go neither she.....she also said yes to me after 7 days ..i was in big pain since then ,,,,i there with her caring and standing firm since whole 1 year with her in spite of knowing that she had one more person in life ..we sahred very good moment together ..she used to talk to me for 3-4 hours daily on phone....we together planned also that how will we marry ,,she even asked on this diwali a mangal shutra as gift ...sometime she just showthat i m only herproperty and i belong to her,,,i asked her many time to just solve this but she said that she cant do it ,,she cant left now her bf 2 and me aslo ....she said that if i will leave i will leave both at once.....i tried to say to her goodbye but she always stopped me and i got pity as i love her ,,,some time she was having some exams but i dont create problem so that i was not able to push her to decide.....i was bearing the pain because i didnt want to hurt her nor i want to spoil her career....but one fine day her bf2 got call details of her mobile and asked about me she revealed everything to him ...i dont know what happened between them ,they straight ways called me and her bf2 was forcing her to say something ,he was also very rude to me but i was polite and said sorry to him too....she said, finally after lot of hesitation " her bf 2 is very good and giving her second chance ...plz dont call me or sms me" i was shattered but i said ok dont cry ,i wont call u or be with u ....keep smiling and hanged up.after two days i got i miss call of her bf2 on my both cell ,i called him and asked why he called me ..he said just for sake ....i was anoyed and stariing abusing him ,,,that bf2 cheated and smartly put me on speaker phone and taht girl was listening evrything on phone ,i abused him and he abused me ,..we hanged ,,,i was sleeping then taht girl called me and said taht how dare i talk about her in this ways ...i dont know what bf 2 plotted against me but she was thinking i said to her ,,,but i didnt utter single word for her ...i shouted on her and said why on earth u did it to me ,why u played with me ,,,,if u wanted to leave me one day ,why u didnt let me go............earlier.....i asked her to end all this mutually so that it is not painful for both and we had good memoies .....she hanged up....after 4-5 day i got to know from her cousin that she was annoye that i was rude to both of them and she was happy with her bf 2 ,talking daily and no worry for me.she said to her cousin that her bf 2 is alone and need me also im more establish than him ……..my question to all of you is that did i deserve such behavior ....what should i do ....how she is ,,,,,,,,i know she was wrong doing it with me and i never left her alone but she did........giving me pain of lifetime.........should I take all pain and sit quietly ……please tell please tell how should i deal with this thing.....plzlpllz plz plz help me out all u good people there .....i need u
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reader, Sal84 +, writes (28 January 2010):
 Hi, This Life is a very big, we meet a lot of new people everyday and some are good and some bad. As Human beings, God has given us the power to decide with whom we want to stay. However, you chose to stay with someone who may be pretty from outside but does not seem to be a good person the way she behaved with you and her earlier bf.
2ndly a relationship starts when two people meet, go out with each other and get to know each other well. However, it seems the only time you spent with this girl was on the phone. You are lucky that you did not spend time in person as it would have been much more hard for you to bear.
Just think if you would have married this girl and later she did all this, would that be acceptable to you...? Just say to yourself that you were saved from this mess.
One day the right person will come in your life and when you think about this girl you will laugh.
One very important advice to you, whenever you are in any relationship try to stay on top always and dont do everything your partner tells you to do as that gets boring for anybody. Be unpredictable and meet in person and don;t talk to long on the phone. Girls love someone who listen to them and thats why they keep chatting on the phone, but you should know when to keep the phone down by telling her you have work.
Regarding this girl and her bf2, just forget about them and consider yourself lucky. Just remember this bf2 is going to get treated even more badly one day and even if he doesn't, just remember nobdy wants a person who lies and cheats in their life.You are a good human being and you will get a good partner one day...so belive me-)
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