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writes:Hello basically i'm 21 now finished uni. Before, i was certain that my lecturer was trying it on with me more so towards the end. He has always been like my shining white knight, helped me a lot.I emailed him few days ago first time we have spoken since i left two months ago, explaining i have a job now etc.All he replied was saying: congratulations, do keep in touch.Now is that like a sarky do keep in touch with no meaning?sounds like it? Reply to this Question
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reader, Stayc63088  +, writes (28 August 2012):
 It was just a polite response to your email. If he was interested in you the way you thought he would've found the time to sit and write you a long wordy email. Nothing snarky or rude about it, just something polite to say. Most of the time those don't mean much. Kinda like seeing a friend from high school and saying we should catch up. You both know it won't happen. I think this is the same. You certainly can keep in touch but I wouldn't expect anything from it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 August 2012): Nothing wrong with what he replied, he said "congratulations, keep up the good work"... He's pleased for you.
Just because that wasn't what you were hoping for, doesn't mean it was sarcastic either.
I believe you simply have a crush on him, and when that happens its easy to mistake that persons kindness for something else, something you were hoping for. Something mutual.
You have to remember he has a job to do, and that is to teach students on a professional level only, if he was to step beyond that level he would have likely lost his career.
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reader, Ciar  +, writes (28 August 2012):
 I agree with eyeswideopen.
He thinks of your fondly, but doesn't want to encourage you to be as close as you once were. You're older now and it's time for you to move on.
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (28 August 2012):
 You, little bird, have left the nest. He now has more little birds to nurture and teach so they can do the same when their time comes. Maybe you were reading just a little too much into his interest in you.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (28 August 2012):
 I think since school just started up, it was a quick reply not necessarily snarky.
Maybe he wanted to send you a short message and didn't have time for a longer one?
Could be he is just being polite.
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