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female
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26-29,
anonymous
writes:Hi. I had a friend that i favoured so much that later on ive just found out that she wasnt a true friend, she was bad mouthing me around, got me into fighting with my other friends and accusing me of things ive never done, making them believe her lies and making me look like a fool. I was so shocked, disappointed and mad at her for betraying me like that and lying right on my face about me. I've tried so many times to confront her to tell the truth about me and apologise for the things she has done to me. She just stuck to her lies (trying to convince everyone), and lately i was seen guilty. I was going through an emotional break down for a month after what she has done to me and what people said to me. I took a long time not speaking to her nor saying 'hi', just avoiding her. Then everybody was like 'hi, you should be nicer to her. You're so rude'. It hurt me, it really did and now i just hate this girl, she almost destroyed my life because after a year that's when people found out that she was lying. I somehow talked to her and told her that i forgave her (even though i know that i did). I still hate this girl, i hate her with all my heart. I just get depressed when someone tells me about her. I hate her, most of the people think i shouldnt because she s a good person. This girl is really good at pretending. Now she is very close to my ex boyfriend, that i dumped after i just found out that he wasnt faithful to me because ive been telling him about this girl and he was acting like he doesnt like what she did to me (guess i was wrong). I mean am i wrong to hate this girl? After all that she did to me? Plz help me im so confused right now.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 August 2012): Don't hate her because I doesnt affect her it effects your only hurting your self rehearing what she did it will help you just try your best to forget about the whole situation it will come back to your old friend karam comes right back around but when it happens to her it's gonna be worse fondant worry Hun just forget about it you'll be okay
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (28 August 2012):
 Honey, don't waste your time and emotions on her and hating her. It won't make a difference for her, she will continue to be who she is and act like she always did.
Accept that you made an error in judgement when becoming friend with her and then let it go. When you spend time "hating" someone all those negative emotions influence and effect YOU. You are the one who gets "hurt" from the hate.
It's OK to not like her, but let the hate go.
If I were you, I would write a long long letter to her ( DO NOT mail it), write down everything she did to you and how it made you feel. Let it ALL over. Then.... burn the letter. Set your heart free of hate.
Sooner or later Karma, will find a way to pay the girl back. A person like her will eventually run out of real friends and out of people who will want to be around her.
Chin up.
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