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*ilynicole
writes:My boyfriend left for camp Monday morning. I stayed the night at his house Sunday night after he asked me to. We didn't do anything sexual and haven't gone farther than touching and making out. I'm 16, he's 17, and we've been talking for about a month 1/2 and went 'official' about 4 weeks ago. I'm not the clingy type, and I let him initiate pretty much all of our hangouts. But I always let him know I like him and how much I appreciate him..so I know I dont come of not into it. He knows that I'm also not a huge texter, but I do make an effort with him. He tells me I'm amazing, beautiful, the best, and how happy I make him, and that I come first. But week before he left he seemed a bit distant, and when we said goodbye Monday morning he seemed odd, but it was also early in the morning. Anyways he went to camp, and he text me when he got there and said he made it. I texted him back the next day and we talked a little bit and he said he was suprised he had service and that he gets it a few places around camp. And later the night around midnight he sent 'miss u like crazy, can't wait to see u'. I replied the next day saying ' I miss you soo much, can't wait to see u either'. And he hasn't replied since. He comes back tomorrow. I shouldnt be worried/mad should I? Did he lose interest? How do I make him want me again? I think I'm in love with him and I don't know what to do.
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reader, Beautyandbiscuits  +, writes (2 July 2011):
 Guys need space and time (why we will never know) and you have nothing to worry about. It sounds like you have a good healthy relationship and when he comes back i'm sure he is going to be back to his old self again. Going to camp can be a big distraction and he probably is making the most time he can to text you. Also you said that you replied the next day to nearly all his texts, maybe he hasnt recieved some of your messages yet due to signal etc and is worried he is loosing you so is trying to give you some space.
Good luck!!
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reader, Abella +, writes (2 July 2011):
 and the part about how do you reignite his interest when he returns.
Very very little (chuckles!) because I would imagine he is thinking of you, a lot!
However greet him with freshly washed hair, smelling wonderful.
My favorite shower products at the moment are 'nantucket' from Crabtree and Evelyn. I wash my hair with it and put it on as a light body lotion. Your hair smelling good is very important. As long as whatever you use is not a sickly sweet nor a 'old lady' violets nor powdery smell, and if it is not overdone. Wear something sweet and not too revealing, you are his special girl, not a trophy to display to other guys.
Just let him tell you all about his activities at camp and sit beside him listening, totally fascinated and happy to hear all.
Just keep calm and smile and be very happy to see him back. But don't try too hard.
Good luck with the reunion
Abella
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reader, Abella +, writes (2 July 2011):
you are not being clingy. I can guarantee his is probably exhausted by all the activities they have mapped out for him. Lots of new things to understand. Rules to take into account. Routine to follow.
I think he may have been a little sad to be saying bye in the time before he left for camp. It is really lovely that he asked you to stay over. Try to keep busy. Make a list of 5 priorities you can consider doing while he is away. Don't stress. You will be able to reconnect when he returns.
It's tough. Try to reflect on all your good memories of the time you did spend together, rather than the time you have not been able to be together.
and if you keep busy this time will go more quickly.
But no one could say it will be easy,
Best wishes,
Abella
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reader, sammy1986 +, writes (2 July 2011):
i wouldnt worry he probably can't get a signal or something he will probably text you when he gets back from camp with a good reason why you haven't heard from him
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reader, Aunty Susie  +, writes (2 July 2011):
 I wouldn't worry. Possibly the reception wasn't always good. Maybe he just got busy doing camp 'stuff'. Send him a text saying - 'can't wait to see you', then just wait and see how it goes when he returns. There's no sense worrying until you see him, and know whats what ok.
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reader, Eyespy17 +, writes (2 July 2011):
He left Monday and it's only Friday. So you are worried about no communication for three days?!? Don't. It doesn't mean he lost interest. It probably means he's just busy and preoccuppied with his new surroundings. Don't worry. I'm sure it will be fine when he's back.
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reader, IheartCherrios +, writes (2 July 2011):
Okay, so don't freak out! Guys defiantely like their space. So when i feel like im getting a bit clingy, i always pretend like i dnt care for a couple of days. Like, dnt text or call unless he does. and then sometimes, when you feel like you've been hanging out a lot and things aren't going right, say you can't come over bcuz your busy. but next time. let him come to you, and he'll worry that he's losing you instead of vice versa. it makes you feel good and it leaves you with dignity. but next time you do hang out, be a little more intimate, like take control over him. obviously, i dnt want to say go have crazy sex (lol) but make sure it's known that you're the leader. I hope this helps!
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