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writes:I've been dating this guy for about a month and last weekend, we got together. Eveything seemed be going all fine. but since last friday I havent heard from him. I texted him and he txted me like a day later and then when I texted him back...I haven't heard from him for few days now..and today I texted him again but he hasn't replied me yet...Do you think I should move on? or what's the story with him? Did he just want to sleep with me?
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reader, cheekyfriday  +, writes (13 November 2010):
STOP the texting and phone him.
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reader, CandyKins  +, writes (6 November 2010):
 Don't keep in contact and see whether or not he keeps in contact with you. If he hasn't in a whole week then you know your answer. if you guys were contacting each other often (before sex) and after sex he isn't then he did just want to sleep with you otherwise he would still be interested and stay in contact with you. But you need to know where you stand so after a week ring him.
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (6 November 2010):
 A guy has a maximum of 3 days to go without contact..it could be he's too lazy to text, busy in general, or a death has occurred in his family. After 3 days and you still got no text or phone call then I'd call it quits. He took the coward way of breaking up with you. Now, if he went cold turkey on you after you guys had sex for the first time then he's not going to call or text consider it over.
For now give him the benefit of the doubt, and 3 days to contact you starting now.
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reader, depressed1  +, writes (6 November 2010):
You are right. He just wanted to sleep with you. Move on.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 November 2010): Well thats kind of hard to answer, because It sounds like he just wants sex, but on the otherhand it could be something else. Did you guys have sex?
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 November 2010): I am very sorry to say so but from what you post it really seems like all he was interessted in was sex.
I suggest though that you call him and ask directly whether he wants to see you again or not. Texts are not a very reliable source to judge by IMO.
If he keeps acting weird and tries to avoid answers or comes up with strange excuses then don't waste another thought on him.
Best wishes!
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reader, AskChristy  +, writes (5 November 2010):
 I hate to break it to you but if he doesnt text he just isn't that interested. He may well have a genuine reason for not texting back, in which case he'll probably respond to you in his own time. In the mean time I think you should stop texting him. Guys like to chase. I didn't used to believe this but I have been trying it recently and it really does work. Never send two texts in a row with no reply. Always wait for him to text first. Miss the odd phonecall or two. You'll have them eating out the palm of your hand. Ignore this guy until he gets into contact with you. If he doesn't its his loss and someone else will soon come along that does all the chasing!
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reader, PatientlyWaiting1 +, writes (5 November 2010):
Yes move on and then maybe he will find his way back. Can't say if he just wanted to sleep with you or not. For future reference, next time after sex...wait for him to contact you first and you be the nonchalant one. Never ever say "I have not heard from you in a while." Gives them too much credit.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 November 2010): Well if this guy was keen before you slept together and always replied back and has suddenly stopped that's not a good sign.
Now, i'm not saying for certain that he just used you for sex because you didn't give much info BUT 9 times out of 10 if a guy suddenly ignores you after he's slept with you it usually means he got what he wanted and the chase is over, so to speak.
I hope i'm wrong, for your sake. What i would do i just leave things alone, don't text or call him, let him do the work.
If he's still interested he'll get in touch if not then you'll have your answer. If it turns out that he did use you then the guy is a loser and you're best off without him anyway.
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