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writes:we lived together for six years ,he ended up moving out,its been a year we started to salvage the relationship,we havent been sexually active in this year i was waiting for him to treat me better and he is showing me that he is somewhat . So I asked him to go and get checked for diseases and he says he doesnt want to he hates to get needles and repeats that he hasnt slept with someone else. he has gone out of town to visit his brother and i didnt get a call from him he always makes an excuse about why he didnt call.I am havig a hard time trustig him .My question is should I beleve him about him not having sex with others please help me. Reply to this Question
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reader, The old Man?  +, writes (3 October 2010):
 I'm going to have to agree with Toomuch stress!
You're already off on a bad foot with your mistrust and demanding that he do something.
I hate to be a pessimist,but I'm sorry to say that with the mistrust and turmoil that is present this early in, It doesn't sound like the two of you getting back together is a good idea.
Even if he did go and take the test, then told you he had sex with someone, would that change anything?
A healthy relationship is built on trust.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 October 2010): well regardless of calling you or not, safety first! He may hate needles but I would hate the thought of STD's OR HIV even worse! No don't trust him! This is about your health I cant stress enough how important that is. If he don't want to get a test then he can go be with someone who don't give a dam about catching some disease. On another note. Quit waiting for him to treat you better, People treat you how you let them treat you. If he is treating you like crap its because you let him... If you stay with him without him getting tested its just one more way of him treating you like crap. DONT let him, your better than that. Move on and find a man not someone who treats you so badly. :)) you desearve to have a nice caring person in your life!
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reader, toomuch stress +, writes (3 October 2010):
 Why did you guys split up in the first place? Was it because he cheated or over trust issues because if so you need no other answer than to say that things are going right back where they started.
When he says he doesn't want to go get tested because he doesn't like it, i don't blame him. Although you want to be sure he is free of any diseases think about it from his point of view. What if he demanded you go get tested? Doesn't sound like a very good way to start off a relationship that has been tested before. If I were you I would tell him you both will get tested and agree to being on the same page. If not, then I wouldn't venture down this road with him again.
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