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writes: My man has a girl welder helper and they were going on a trip for work. I got back some pictures and her arm was around him in one and in the other his arm was around her. also, pictures of her in her bikini.I had a feeling that she and feelings for him. Every time she was around i would see him glance at her. We were surpose to get married when a month before the wedding he told me he only loved me as a friend. he said he wanted a break. so i ended up staying at a friends place for a few nights, when i found out that he went to her birthday party and passed out on her bedroom floor for the night. A month later he said sorry for everything he did. I asked him if he cheated on me on there trip or when he stayed a her house. he told me no. but, everytime i bring her name up he doesn't say anything except oh yeah!I think about it all the time. I don't know if i can trust him. do you think he cheated on me or am i just over reacting?
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 December 2006): Yes but I don't think a bikini and body contact in a intimate way was introduced in your husband's work related trips.
I think she has a valid, legitimate reason to feel how she does.
Either way...ground rules maybe no more "trips" with single, attractive or available females unless you are included.
That gut feeling; trust and rely in more and it will become a powerhouse of a "muscle".
Take Care.
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reader, willywombat  +, writes (28 December 2006):
 One answer I would like to give to the answerer below....my husband has taken a holiday with a non-relation/GF type person of the oposite sex on more than one occasion. It is called WORK!!
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reader, willywombat +, writes (28 December 2006):
One answer I would like to give to the answerer below....my husband has taken a holiday with a non-relation/GF type person of the oposite sex on more than one occasion. It is called WORK!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 December 2006): Listen.
To avoid such situations as yours, make it a rule to live by that you and those whom you date and/or marry do not put themselves in a situation where their integrity is put in question.
Do your best to not be seen with the opposite sex where it can be misconstrewed as "sleeping around".
A vacation together? How does a MAN come to believe that vacationing with a female who is not his GF or WIFE is acceptable?
Why would a man pass out at some other woman's home who he has no interest in? Give me a break.
Ask him full out and do get some couples counselling.
If you are both to move on and be together you both need to deal with this and get back on track with the trust and faith in the other.
Best Wishes.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 December 2006): Honestly I think he cheated on you with the welding chick. She sounds like a hoe kinda. Why would he want to c any girl in a bikini unless it was you since he "loves" u s0oo0 much?
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 December 2006): I seriously doubt he cheated with a female welder,I will post to this only because i know how it goes,all my life i have had way too many guy friends, all through school the other girls got jealous of that fact, even would spread rumors i was sleeping with them all.
Get some self confidence in yourself,are you that worried about how you are ,that you think ur man would jump at a welder friend female or not.
Men,sometimes just enjoy that fact she is female but is more like a guy to hang out with.He actually probably scared to death of her ,because she is more adapt to doing manly things,or even better then he is.
My husband of 20 years,still jumps to wrong conclusions over my male friends,but i surf,skateboard,bmx bike, but yet i still have a female side aswell,i dont nag i dont complain, i carry myself with confidence and pride of who i am,and i know deep down any guy i am with,would miss all of me if i was gone,and i think that is somehting you should try to tell urself.
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reader, eddie  +, writes (18 December 2006):
If he doesn't tell you, you'll never know. I've misread pictures before also. The only reason the picture bothers you is because it's her. It's perfectly natural to get in close for a group type picture. As for the picture of her in her bikini. Ask yourself why that bothers you. If she wore it to work and sat on your guys knee, that would be one thing. Was she at the beach or near a pool, perhaps sun tanning. If she was, that's perfectly normal attire.
He went to her party. Who else went? Were there other's from work? They do spend alot of time together you know. It makes sense he might attend. Sleeping over, that should be out of bounds, in my opinion. He had broken up with you though.
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