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*illixxxx
writes:was with my man for 2 years until he left me in may 2010 as he had met someone else although we kept in touch.2 months later we started meetin up as friendsm him sayin she was out his life,and he had only done it to push me away.We were gettin on well ( i was over th moon to have him bak in my life) and started sleeping together another month later.At this point i trusted his word and never doubted him, that was until found her at his place 1 night after he said he would meet me, he was ignoring my calls so i went to his and there they were. The next day he told me she just a mate, he was bored so text her t pop up, as a mate and i believed (let myself) him, how stupid looking back now.That was in august, we were still seeing eachother but it seemed so casual compared t before the split (another sign i ignored), and i had a gut feeling something jus wasnt right.1 mornin In october i logged into facebook and my world fell apart again, she had written love-notes on his wall and put that she was in a relationship, her mate asked who, she wrote my mans name. I nearly had a breakdown, couldnt get out of bed, jus could not believe it.After a few days of hearin how it me he wants, she nothin i let him back in again only to find her at his place in november.He swore that was las tym, new year new start he said yet iv still had that naggin feeling eating away because of how he is towards me at times, like ive been crying bout something, looking to him for comfort and get nothing.AL this led to me goin through his mobile lastnight only to find he still has her number, but the devastating thing is that he saved her num under 'Sarah babe xx''.i gave him my new number yesterday and its saved 'rhian'. I havent said anything to him yet as i feel so bad for snooping in his things yet i cant put into words how much it hurts, its like my worst fear has been proven true, that she is his babe, not me.advise would be great, im so weak from living this 18 months of hell, i just dont know how to handle it.thanks for reading :(
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reader, billixxxx +, writes (6 July 2011):
billixxxx is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks for th help, i no iv let it happen its jus every time he promised it would be different, jus him saying th words made me forget any pain he caused, and each time he hurt me again, i was just as, if not more hurt . u sad people who felt the need to pick at me at a time wher im that desperate for help im writing online, get a life. u got nothin better to do than pick fauly in others cos ur so low in yourself.....................!
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reader, Ninja4  +, writes (3 July 2011):
It's going to hurt like hell, because you obviously really care about him. And the guy that wrote,
"You sound 15 the way you write? If it hurts so much and you know he's lying to you why are you with him? It's very simple if you want to continue to be cheated on then you stay with him, if you have any shred of self decency and worth then you'll not take any more of his calls and find someone who will treat you better. It's your choice.
Good luck"
Just shut up. This website is for people to come ask questions and ask for advice. Not get negative comments.
It's going to hurt, but you need to leave him. You'll see that it's for the better soon enough. Trust me. I was in a relationship where I was controlled and emotionally abused, and about three months after we broke up, I couldn't beleive how happy I was compared to before.
Women tend to make acceptions for the men they love, simply because they love them and WANT them to be the perfect guy.
Don't let yourself be played. You need to take action.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 July 2011): You sound 15 the way you write? If it hurts so much and you know he's lying to you why are you with him? It's very simple if you want to continue to be cheated on then you stay with him, if you have any shred of self decency and worth then you'll not take any more of his calls and find someone who will treat you better. It's your choice.Good luck
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reader, MissTellAll +, writes (3 July 2011):
 Don't be used. He is playing with you. Don't look at his words, look at his actions. You find him with her, his name in her phone, he has previously left you for her...Leave them be. Subtract yourself from the situation. It's the only way to end your pain.I'm sorry you're being put through this. He doesn't deserve you or the other girl. End it.Good luck.
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reader, hannah76  +, writes (3 July 2011):
 You are being played. He gets the two of you. Time to move on and leave this behind. There is no future for you here. None whatsoever.
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