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writes:Well I'm new at all this stuff and I don't really speak in english nor type correctly..To start with, I would like to point out the fact that I really feel I love my boyfriend, the drama comes when he just seem to doesn't care about me anymore. We have beeing together for just two months and we'll be 3 in 5 days. My problem is that he isn't so.. I can't find the correct word, hope you can understand me..He isn't that expressive I think. I'm always telling him that I love him, that he's the best thing I've ever had (course he is) and that my life would suck without him.. But he never keeps on telling me things like that.. It isn't as he had never told me some beautiful things but he doesn't do it eventually nor usually.. I think he just need a time or some space but I can't see why.. I understand him when he want to go out with his friends but I feel i have to plan everything just to see him a cuple of hour at my place. I support him with his basketball practises but he doesn't with my gym's ones.. Please tell me what should i do to get him back. TO be his centre of attention.. don't want him to be interested in other girls.. I know it's such a short relationship, but if i lose him now, i won't have the chance to make him love me seriously.XXXXMe. Reply to this Question
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reader, Aunty BimBim  +, writes (25 November 2009):
 wow, I know you are not going to like this, but you are so young. Too young to be tieing yourself down to one boy. And I am going to assume he is also very young, his head will, and should, be full of lots of stuff, not just girls.
I am glad to see he plays sports, but you know, boys arent really all that into supporting girls in their activities, and thats normal.
Perhaps you need to try and be a little less intense. Back off a little with the declarations of undying love, and just concentrate on having fun and laughs together, the life expectancy in Uraguay is about 80, just settle and forget about the deep and meaningful stuff for a few years, that will still leave you more than 60 years for the serious stuff.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 November 2009): Actually your English is better than most people on here, even the English speaking ones... *points a finger*
You say he is the best that happened to you? Then he must be doing something right, right? He sounds like he's not good with words. Not all of us are good at expressing how we feel, or even showing it. Sometimes it comes with age, other times we open up more when we feel more comfortable with the other person. And sometimes again it's just how the personality is.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (25 November 2009):
Have you spoken to him? Men aren't great at being understanding all the time. I think you should try to talk to him and ask him how he feels. Ask him to support you more. He might want to, but he might not know how to show it. I think you should sit down with him and ask him how he feels about your relationship, and if he sees a future. Tell him you need to feel loved. Hopefully he wil listen. And your english is actually very good.
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