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writes:I have chosen to ask my question on here as I have nowhere else to turn. On paper I know that I am quite fortunate: I have a good group of friends, been in a stable loving relationship for over a year and I have just finished my first year of my law degree. But emotionally I am an absolute mess. I don't know what has happened to me but I am barely coping.When I was younger I was quite badly bullied and went through a tough time but out of that I thought I had became stronger person, someone who could stand there ground and was emotionally stable. That all seems to have gone down the drain. I have been going through a lot of stress recently but I coped and dealt with it as that's what you do in life but I seemed to have a hit a point where I just can't deal with it anymore. A couple of months ago seems to have been my trigger point, it was something minor but it tipped me over the edge. I was forced to give up on some thing I had put a lot of work into and was basically pushed aside and since then I have been an emotional wreck. I will cry at the drop of a hat, and when I do cry it's not just a few tears it's sobbing. It's the silly things that get me the most, I even start questioning why I am upset but I can't explain it. I have tried to explain this to other people but every one I speak to just dismisses me and tells me to 'get a grip' but that just makes me feel so much worse. Tonight I have spent the entire night in my room because I was yelled at for crying because my mum thought it wasn't acceptable as I am 19. I don't know what to do, when I talk to anyone they only hear me but they don't listen. I was told I am being dramatic but they aren't the ones crying themselves to sleep because they feel so miserable. I feel so isolated and lonely, even getting out of bed in the morning is becoming difficult. I don't know what to do, I feel like I have hit a dead end and don't deserve to be feeling this way. I was just wondering if anyone has ever been through some thing like this and how they solved it. I just need to know how to find a light at the end of the tunnel.
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reader, olderthandirt  +, writes (11 June 2014):
 You have succeeded in Step 1. you have reached out albeit to a websit littered with people like me who are not doctors. Now for step 2...consult with a real professional;the phone book is full of help as is the internet listings for degreed (pHD) folks that can assist you in a full recovery. Step 3. do what they(he or she) tell you to do. take whatever meds they prescribe and stick with the program...AND then Step 4. Smell the roses every day, watch children at play in the park, find a soulmate and give him/her your love. You WILL survive and blossom again. Bless you that you have recognized your problem while it is still "fixable" so many wait or try to fix themselves an equation for failure! You,however will bloom again! best of luck keep fighting for your life.
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reader, mystiquek  +, writes (11 June 2014):
 Abella is so right. It sounds like you are suffering from depression. People that have never experienced may not understand. They might say things like "Snap out of it" or "get a grip on yourself." The problem is that you can't! You need help, someone to talk to, possibly medications to help with a chemical imbalance. Please seek caring professional help. Depression can spiral out of control to the point where a person will not bathe, eat, get out of bed. You know that something is wrong and thats the first step. Realizing there is a problem. I hope your parents will listen to you and help you, you could use their love and support. Please get the help that you need sweetie. You will feel so much better. Please know that you are not alone, there are all kinds of support groups online and in person. Look them up. I wish you all the best.
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reader, cattycakes +, writes (11 June 2014):
The first thing to do is look for the company of positive people. It helps massively. But also speak to your GP as suggested. Cognitive behavioural therapy is excellent for helping to look at things in a better light. There is a free website called Moodgym which you can experiment with, it uses CBT based exercises. Don't let people make you feel worse about being depressed. Cry if you need to. Just get to see a CBT expert! I know it isn't so easy when the NHS makes you wait. Perhaps your parent would help pay for you to see a CBT coach soon, so you can start dealing with your thought processes?
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reader, Abella +, writes (10 June 2014):
 First please make an appointment to see your doctor. Depression is a treatable condition that affects millions of people all over the world.
Depression can happen for(apparently) no reason, or there can be reasons why you know you are depressed - such as the loss of something or someone important to you.
Please do not delay contacting your Doctor as Depression can result in you spiralling into a deep vortex of depression.
The amount of good support available in your country is truly awesome to cope with these unwelcome feelings of depression.
Please reach out to one of these admirable help services and help resources.
Samaritans can help you with one on one counselling over the phone or via text.
Your Doctor may also be able to suggest a nearby help group.
Untreated depression is very debilitating so seeking help early on is the best strategy.
Getting motivated to reach out and seek help is often the hardest step. You have shown good common sense by reaching out to Dearcupid.org. Now it is time to seek support from your Doctor and explore other support services that can take you to the next level to overcome this bout of depression that you are suffering from right now.
Please see links below to some help resources that may be able to assist you further.
www.Samaritans.org
http://www.nhs.uk/Conditions/stress-anxiety-depression/Pages/depression-help-groups.aspx
http://www.depressionuk.org/national_links.shtml
http://www.mind.org.uk/information-support/
http://depression-support-group.meetup.com/cities/gb/17/london/
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