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writes:This is hard to explain, but I am going through a difficult time at the moment. Sometimes, I have ignored my friends when they have tried to contact me. I don't know how to explain to them that I am going through a difficult time at the moment. I feel embarrassed and feel like they wouldn't understand. I have been depressed about a few things that are going on in my life. I don't want my friends to think that I don't want to see them or speak to them. Their lives seem to be going well at the moment, and I feel worthless compared to them.Also, one of my friends has a crush on me, and it is making me feel uncomfortable. He sends texts sometimes, saying that he thinks I am pretty. He has said that he would like to go out with me, but I only see him as a friend. I don't know how to politely tell him that I am not interested.
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (12 May 2014):
 The longer you wait to tell your friend that you are not interested the worse it is going to get.
You have it easy in the sense that you CAN text it to him, instead of talking to him face-to-face.
So NEXT time he hints at a date or liking you, tell him you are flattered but you don't see him as more then a friend.
Find either ONE of your friends or your mom/dad and talk about feeling depressed. Sometimes just SAYING it can help. Then go visit your doctor and talk to him/her as well.
It is very easy to isolate yourself when you are depressed. I know I did. But that will also make the feeling of being alone and miserable 10 times worse. SO DO talk to your friend and DO take notice and DO something about it. Don't wait for it to "go away" on it's own. Depression don't work that way.
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reader, Daisy_Daisy +, writes (12 May 2014):
 Hi OP,
I agree with RevMick, I think you should confide in at least a few of your friends and let them know how you are feeling. It is common for people to isolate themselves when they are depressed, when in fact it's one of the worst things to do. I know you might not feel up to it, but spending time with your friends will actually help to lift your mood. And please try not to compare yourself to your friends; even if you're not depressed it's a bad idea but when you are depressed it's very self defeating.
I would definitely say it's worth going to chat with your GP about treatment options. The best thing is to have talking therapy as well as medication. The waiting times for therapy are long but it will be worth the wait. I wouldn't suggest long term treatment with antidepressants but maybe your GP could suggest something short term, or if you're not keen you could try St. John's Wort - you can get it from health food shops and chemists.
Don't fret about the friend who has a crush on you. Just be honest with him.
Look after yourself. Be honest with your friends and let them be there for you.
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reader, RevMick +, writes (12 May 2014):
 Hi,
Depression is a terrible illness and can impact on every part of your life, you health and your friendships. I would just be open and tell them you are not feeling yourself and can they please understand and be there when you need them.
As for the other person, just be honest. 'Thank's but I only see you as a friend'.
I would maybe speak to your GP about seeing a counselor, there is no stigma about depression as there used to be. Everyone can get it from any walk of life.
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