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writes: For seven years i went to dancing school with this girl (who we'll call Angela) who was really bitchy, mean and made my early teenage life a misery. she made me feel really insecure about my dancing and was just a bully in general. seven years later and i'm with my dream man who's been faithful to me and (vice versa!) for a whole year now. we all have our pasts and i get that, the problem is his past was spent mainly with angela! i can't believe he liked someone who treated me so horribly and someone who i genuinely cant stand to think of or see. he rarely talks to her, when he does it is totally innocent as he'll always tell me "i ran into angela today" or whatever but it still upsets me. he has made an effort not to be in touch with her but this is not my main problem. the thing is she is very beautiful and also the number one dancer in our country, number one dancer, can you imagine her body! i am so envious of her looks and skills,plus she is sponsored and has everything she could ever want. it is so hard because she is often on tv or in the newspapers or magazines, seeing her consumes me with mean thoughts and jealousy, i dont know how to deal with it.
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reader, Marlie  +, writes (1 September 2008):
My advice is... listen to the two who posted before me =) If this "Angela" ever tries to make you feel bad about yourself by bullying you again, or if there's something about her making you feel jealous, just imagine the weird little voice that's at the back of HER head that's telling her, "Oh yeah, look at me making [you] feel bad! This is what I need to do to make me feel better because although my life looks great, it actually sucks. And I don't want you to know that, and I hide everything that's bad about my life from you. because making you feel bad makes me feel better! Hardeeharrrr!"If it makes you laugh to yourself, that's a good thing =) It should help you realise that all things considered [and I mean ALL] she's not better than you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 September 2008): You are young, so I presumme your man is too.
Here's my guess:
Your boyfriend may have just been fasinated with the female body when he was in his younger and so was with Angela, he may not have cared about what she was like as a person and was only interested in her for her looks. Now that he is a little older he has grown up and after (I'm presumming) not being treated the best by this girl, he's tried to find someone he likes as a person as well as being satisfied with her physical body.
Another thing may be that Angela was not a bad girlfriend, and that your boyfriend liked her because she was nice to him and he didn't know about her bullying side.
Try not to be jealous. She had a great man who she was no good enough for. You have one up on her. Forget about her body. You are the one that has ended up with your wonderful, faithful boyfriend, not her.
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reader, auddi  +, writes (1 September 2008):
Hi girl..
:) I completely understand what you are going thru. I have been thru the same - more or less. But I guess u in worse soup than me coz this girl angela seems to be doing too well and well its human (actually "woman") nature to feel like the way you do!
The important fact is: you have something she has lost. Yep, right..Your sweeeeet bf! He is so faithful to you and takes care that he avoids talking to her and stuff just for your sake! Besides, he is honest. You have his love..what more do u want!
As for her being beautiful and stuff...aah..that doesn't matter..really! You could do something else besides dancing that only you are good at (not her) AND excel at it. Then you would feel much better..trust me. It would help you shake off this feeling you get about urself that she has put into your mind abt your dancing.
Honestly, I admire people like you who even give dancing a shot..it's not my cup of tea at all!
Auddi
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