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writes:I and my ex recently got back together and I feel like I am alive again. I’ve smiled more and every morning was like a brand new day because of the happiness he put back into my life. Last night however was a nightmare with him. A good friend of mine came down out of town for a visit. He is guy but he also is very gay. The extent of our night consisted of watching “monster in law” in my living room with my sister and BS’d. I even offered my bf to call and check up on me and he did and had an attitude because my attention wasn’t fully set on him. I continued to text him throughout the night except for literally 20 min of saying goodbye to my friend and gathering up my sister and son to take her home. Once I got into my car I called my bf and we was livid with me because I didn’t text him a whole 20 min. He assumed I was doing something. It turned into a huge argument over nothing because I didn’t do anything. The comments he was making to me was mean and really hit me low. The one thing he said that hurt the most was, I told him if he really didn’t want to be with me and couldn’t trust me all he had to do was tell me instead of jumping around the issue. That’s when he made the comment “what so you can harass me then”? So now im really feeling hurt and like the only reason he got back with me is because when we was broken up will was still semi friends but he knew I still loved him but I never felt I harassed him. I feel sometimes not matter what I do for this man its never good enough. He keeps telling me if I want this to work I got to try harder. For on and off 11 months now all I have done is try. There isn’t anything in the world I wouldn’t do for him and the only thing I ever wanted in return is him to love and respect me. What should I do. Ive tried letting him go. I just feel like im suffocating without him but im dying inside being with him. Please help.
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reader, chlez83  +, writes (17 January 2008):
I would give da same answer as Laura1318.
Good luck hun.
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (17 January 2008):
 This guy is insecure and fearful of losing you . He is mentally and emotionally abusing you . You need to get away from him for a while until he learns the right way to treat you . He needs to grow up and treat a woman like a woman.
He does not know how to appreciate or say nice words or praise you . He thinks you are not perfect enough and wants you to be the perfect woman for him while he does not change and those rules which he made for you only applies to you.
He is like the recalcitrant student who has to be send to the corner to learn his mistakes.If you want a better relationship , he has to feel the pain of your withdrawal.He has taken you for granted.
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reader, rcn +, writes (17 January 2008):
 Let him go. True happiness can't be found within any relationship, other than the one you have with yourself. You probably didn't harrass him before, but he now knows he's in the wrong when you said that, so he attempted to take the blame off himself and turn it on you.
He doesn't seem like someone you should spend too much time with. He's jealous, controlling. You don't need that. You won't earn him by doing for him. If you could, you should return him anyway.
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reader, O Connor  +, writes (17 January 2008):
 well it sounds to me like this guy is walking all over you!!he lies back while telling you to make all the effort. there are 2 of you in this relationship and he doesnt seem to grasp that. you need to put your foot down and stand up for yourself, because wat he has now is his own personal doormat. to be honest i dont think he deserves you, you should be sending your love to someone who appreciates it and doesnt make you feel like its not enough. if things dont change fast, i think you should get out before things get worse. do you think that part of it may be that you are scared to be alone? and you prefer the idea of a boyfriend? id like to talk to ya more, so just email me hun, your worth more than this
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