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writes:How do I cope with working beside the man my wife cheated on me with? Just found out my co-worker is the person my wife cheated with the first time, she never coped with my finding out so how do I cope with this now?
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 January 2008): How do YOU feel about being made a fool of? You have been cuckolded And you have to work with this creep every day?DOES HE KNOW THAT YOU KNOW? If not ,I wouldn't let on to him that you know. Get to know him. You are still with your wife. You say that she never coped with You finding out? Well ,tough shit on her,but that's another story. As far as he is concerned , get to know his daily routine. Go out to lunch with him. Play the fool a little longer. Then ,when you are good and ready,when he least expects it confront him and throw him the biggest beating of his life. Then let your wife know all about it and tell her to cope with that. Maybe you'll get lucky and the **** will leave you for the lowlife and you 'll be a free man with your self respect restored.
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (17 January 2008):
 It would be easier for you to forgive your coworker if you think it was your wife's fault and not his fault. Your wife seduced him.You cannot blame him for that.
Or you see no evil , hear no evil and speak no evil.
What ever happened is history. Move on.
Some day he will get his dues.For whatever he sows ,so shall he reaped. Leave it to God.
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reader, Collaroy  +, writes (17 January 2008):
 Hi,
your post is a little confusing: "she never coped" ?? what does that mean? Is there a history of infidelity? or she freaked out when she knew you knew.
In any event, it must be very awkward, he obviously knows who you are so I can't imagine him being willing to engage in any mano a mano drinking sessions with you. I would just avoid him socially and only communicate in a professional manner. I think it highly unlikely he will want to know why you are standoffish with him, he slept with your wife - he can work it out himself.
What's interesting was how you found out? Did a coworker tell you? Is the gossip factory in your workplace going into full production? You might find this the hardest to deal with out of everything. And by the way, nobody likes a cheat and nobody likes someone who sleeps with married men/women - so he is the one who should be keeping his head down.
Good luck
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reader, O Connor  +, writes (16 January 2008):
 ignore him....just because you work next to him doesnt mean you need to develop any relationship with him. you have every right not to want to talk to him and he needs to realise that and keep appropriate distance.
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