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reader, anonymous, writes (19 February 2014): and, thanks for taking the time to read my article x!
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 February 2014): here's my 5, btw.1. NO SHOWING OFF! i hate people that show off. they act like they're better than you, and i really don't like that.2. no perviness, if thats a word. like, no touching butts, and squeezing breasts and then laughing like squirmish girls. i don't like pervs. they're so slutty, and they make you feel like a slutt, 'cos thats what pervs like.3. no being ungrateful for what you've got! i hate it when people have most of what they want, but then complain 'cos they couldn't get another thing. there are people out there who have nothing.4. no agression towards anyone. i don't like agressive or abusive people. my uncle was very agressive. so agressive that it came to the point that i stayed away from him, and i still do, even though he tries to talk.and finally, number 5. no immaturity towards the littlest things. eg. don't freak out if there's a dead mouse on the floor. i hate people who are immature.
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reader, xTheAlmightyDuckx +, writes (19 February 2014):
xTheAlmightyDuckx is verified as being by the original poster of the question Sounds like a good top 5 iAmHereToHelpYou x Pretty similar to mine, I can't deal with the sexism, racisms ones either :L
And TaylorSwiftFan, I have read your article, you are 13, you shouldn't even be thinking about how to get guys, enjoy being young until its to late, getting invovled with boyfriends at such a young age will not do anything for you apart from potentially making your young teenage life harder.
Trust me we have all been there.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 February 2014): yeah, i haaaaate touchy feely clingy guys. they're soooo annoying! but it's sweet sometimes, i have to admit. well, the hugs and stuff is sweet, but the not leaving me alone really gets me on a fuse. this is a great article, btw! i've just written an article on how to find someone special, and how to tell them you like them without actually telling them. sounds complicating, i know, but it's not!
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