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writes:I'm seeing someone right now and for a while things were going great. But now things have gone kind of cold. We went out for a few weekends and she had fun but now she seems to be withdrawn and have a lot of stuff on her mind right now.About 3 weeks ago she started to go from chatting via phone almost every day to hardly talking and always beeing distracted about something or another in her life. She has admitted to me that right now she's not sure what she wants or who she wants it with and that it has nothing to do with me but i'm not sure.Right now i'm not feeling very good about where this is heading and am wondering if i should break it off or not, i dont want to but know it's the right thing to do as well.Please help as any advice would be welcome right now.Thank You Reply to this Question
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (7 February 2010):
I'm afraid to say that this sounds like a situation where you would be better off moving on from her. It sounds like she has a lot going on, and if that it the case to stay and be unhappy would only hurt you more.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 February 2010): When your response to the idea of breaking it off is you "...know it's the right thing to do as well." then it sounds like you're working on facing up to the truth.I'm sorry if this hurts, but it sounds like she's withdrawn, and for your own good you should turn around and go on. Please remember to not take any of her actions, or inaction, personally.
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reader, dearkelja  +, writes (7 February 2010):
 How long have you been dating? It seems that she is at an introspective time in her life and a relationship might not be on her priorities.
I really think that the best thing to do is to let the relationship go. Taking a break is not solving anything because you will cling onto hoping that she'll come back. It is the best for both of you if she will not "let you in" and attempt to work things out with you, rather than without you.
If you stay, you will only grow more bitter towards her and your resentment towards her will grow. If you both take a break you are allowing her to figure things out and if she determines that she's ready for a relationship and you are the one she wants one with then fine, she can see where you're at in your life and if she's the one for you.
Meanwhile, you should continue on in your life as if you've broken up. No hope she'll come back, no sitting around waiting. Good luck!
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