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writes:I've been dating a narcissistic man and have broke it off he is pursuing a women that is half his age and doesn't want a relationship with him. He still sends me e-mails like It was good to see you, you are like a bar to a recovering alcoholic. I have to see him at work and is always winking at me.
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reader, Braha +, writes (3 June 2010):
When he winks at you, he is hoping for approval. He doesn't need your approival, just any approval will do.
The entire front or cover or skin 9of a narcissist is that of self confidence. However, in my opinion, that shows he is overcompenssatig for his feelings o9f inadequacy and self doubt. It is like a guy who cuts off his T shirts to show his muscles and swaggers down the street oozing with confidence and seems to be looking for a fight. In reality, he is doing all that to AVOID a fight. It is a front.
Narcissists are also manipulative and live in the drama of theater and novels. Most of all, they are in denial and usually have other problems mentally, not just the self involvement.
Therefore, before you wink back or before you again become involved, ask yourself if it's worth it to fall into the abyss of having to constantly deal with the ever newer day to day problems and concernshe will undoubtedly have. If you marry him, you will spend your entire life trying to help him while your personal life becomes irrelevant and inconsequential.
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reader, YouWish +, writes (3 June 2010):
 Ugh, he sounds like a complete toolbox. Don't just break it off, wipe him off your shoe like you would wipe off any excrement you stepped in. He's charismatic and magnetic because he's been cultivating that persona. So now he wants to stroke his ego by going out with young women. Blech.
Him telling you that you're like a bar to a recovering alcoholic? Well isn't that just sweet? **swoon** Tell him that they make eye drops for his obvious eye problem and then ignore him. He's only talking to you like that because stringing you along helps his overinflated ego.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (3 June 2010):
Just leave him be. This is a man YOU DO NOT want in your life. Ignore him as much as possible. He is still a narcissist who is trying to use you. That's all he ever will be.
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