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writes:im 16 and ive been dating a guy for about 5 months. is it ok to let him see my boobs?and i know one thing may lead to another and not to let him pressure me.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 July 2008): yeah do it definetly. he will like you a lot better. he might even be a better boyfriend. i sure did. im 16 and my girlfriend was in the same situation.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 April 2008): If you're ready for him to see and touch your breasts but not ready to go all the way sexually, talk with him and tell him what you're ready for and what you're not ready for. Tell him that, in order for you to feel safe and comfortable, he has to assure you that he will not pressure you for more than you are ready for at this point. If he is about your age and not experienced sexually, he may be as nervous about it as you are and have as much need as you do to proceed slowly with physical intimacy. You might want to start with letting him put his hand inside your bra if you haven't already done that. When you're ready, make it easy for him with a top that buttons in front and a front hook bra. He may be shaking like a leaf as he fumbles with the buttons on your top and your bra clasp. Go slow, and tell him what feels good to you and what doesn't as far as fondling and kissing your breasts or sucking your nipples. Do a lot of snuggling and cuddling, and hold his head between your breasts with an ear to your chest where he can hear your heartbeat. He's probably never listened to a girl's heart, and if you are going to let him see your breasts, it's a good time to share your heartbeat with him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 January 2008): There is no absoloute "right" or "wrong" answer here, but both sides have their points, in this day and age, you probably have some realistic expections of your boyfriend, the question isn't for us to answer, or even your boyfriend.
The question is yours to answer, you may have some soulsearching to to do, but you need to figure out if you want to show him your boobs, nothing anyone else believes is right or wrong matters.
But let me say one thing, if you are scared of being pressured into something more, simply have a conversation, before you do show him anything, about exactly what you'll be willing to do, and not be willing to do, on this one day/night.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 December 2007): hey whats up ...listen ive been datin my guy for now 5 months too...and one day something lead to the next thing and we ended up on his bed and everything...but i never regeted it bc i really do love him and who ever says you need a long time to have love is mistaken bc my grandparent knew each other for 3 months then got married.
so do what you want and dont reget it ...you only live once enjoy it and party until the sun comes back up the next morning!
Loves and hopes for a bright future!
Emmerz17
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 October 2007): Being a man of much experience, I have to say no. Your breasts are yours and yours alone and exposing them to a boy is the start of lost innocence that you will never get back. If you have never been fondled you really have no idea how turned on you may get and that's when things can quickly and easily get out of control. You may not want to believe this now, but boyfriends will come and go, and I suggest saving ALL of yourself for your future lifemate. Good luck and may God bless you!
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 April 2007): I am now married, but when my wife and I were first going out, she let me take off her top about 3 months into the relationship. No I didn't pressure her to do any more. It was a personal choice that we had already made to not have sex until we were married and we stuck to that. Bare breasts don't always mean sex. We had a lot of fun before we were married and things like her letting me see her boobs let out some sexual tension... at least that's the way it was for us. It's all a personal choice.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 April 2007): if you're not sure about it don't do it!!!!
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reader, negru  +, writes (31 March 2007):
Why does it always come down to sex? You, know, you can always pleasure each other sexually without actually having sex.
Not all guys have sex on their mind all the time. Quite a lot care more about satisfying their partner first, anyway.
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reader, perkypanda +, writes (28 March 2007):
I think the responses are a little unfair. Not all teenage boys are going to force their girlfriend to have sex. When I was in high school I knew a lot of great guys who were fine with waiting for when their girl was ready. My serious high school boyfriend and I would do everything but and he was supportive of my wanting to wait.
I really believe if your boyfriend is a good guy I think he can handle some boobs and not go nuts if you still want to wait for sex. Hell, I think he's proven himself a decent guy by waiting this long without boobs.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 March 2007): if your having to check with members on here whether its ok to show him your breasts then you obviously aint comfy in the relationship so plese do your self a big favour and wait until you find the right man in your life. dont give yourself away freely cause thats one thing you can never get back
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reader, Dr. John +, writes (28 March 2007):
 Hon, this is not a wise thing to even consider. You already know how one thing leads to another and now is not the time in your life to start down that path. There is lots of time for that sort of thing and so many times I have heard women talk of how they so regret giving up their virginity before marriage. On the other hand I have heard others talk of how they did wait and they are so proud of that, and with good reason.
I think you know what the right decision is in this matter so go do the right thing. Doc.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 March 2007): Just a quick word of caution. I can guaruntee, that if you show him your breasts he will pressure you to have sex. Don't kid yourself, he'll do this, immediately. So unless you aren't prepared to go 'all the way', dear--don't show him your breasts until you are really ready to begin an sexual relationship with him.
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