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*eyonca
writes:My boyfriend and I have been dating for 4 years. In the last 14 months we have not been sexually intimate with each other. He stopped coming around and spending quality time with me. All we do is talk on the phone. I've talked to him about my concerns regarding our relationship and he claims to be fatigue and exhausted all the time. I know in my heart he's cheating on me but I don't have any proof of it. I truly love him but I just don't know what to do. Any suggestions? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 June 2012): Some people have very low sex drives and he can be one of those people. Also he may be depressed and do not really know how to tell you. Sometimes when a couple is together for a while they can lose that spark but you can rekindle your love. Try being more romantic through messaging and phone conversations. Also try not to argue about the actual problem to him.
If he does not want to spend quality time with you even when you suggest there is some type of problem. It all depends do he work alot? Is he having financial problem? Have he recently had a death in the family? Maybe he can be stressed from work? Try to take you mind away from the cheating thoughts...And believe if he is in fact cheating it will all come to the light in time. I wish you well
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reader, Candycane1234  +, writes (6 June 2012):
 I don't know if this is a longshot but he might be cheating with women on the internet and not real women. I've heard of men becoming addicted to porn and losing interest in real women. It's just a thought and some people might forgive that kind of behaviour.
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reader, In.love.with.him +, writes (6 June 2012):
 You need to catch him once you do there is your proof follow him when he goes out at an unusual time. Who knows he could be depressed.
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reader, Fatherly Advice +, writes (6 June 2012):
 Sidestepping the infallible intuition issue, There are medical reasons for his behavior that he may be too embarrassed to talk to you about. On the other hand, you have been incredibly patient to wait this long. It is certainly time for a talk.
FA
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reader, DoubleM +, writes (6 June 2012):
 That's a long time for a fairly young woman to go without intimacy. In my opinion, it would be time to get another boyfriend.
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reader, jewlstep4174 +, writes (6 June 2012):
 If you havent been intimate with him in over a year. Most definitely he is doing something. Just curious why you let it go so long. I mean I know sex isnt everything is some relationships, but it also is important to keep things alive. when that goes away its boring. Is there a reason for exhaustion from him. Is he ill, or is something going on where he has a very demanding job or maybe works late hours. If you think he is cheating, trust your instincts cause if you feel like he probably is , he is probably. Everytime I have felt my bf or a friend's bf or anyone was cheating, I was right. If your not sexually attracted to him anymore , may this relationship isnt right for you and you should move on. No matter how hard it is , you deserve to be happy with someone that wants to be intimate and wants to spend time with you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 June 2012): Kick him the curb....or tell him to fess up. Life is too short.
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