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writes:Im 14 years old and i dont know wat to do because my dad caught me masterbaiting. My dad isnt the best understanding person. what should i do?Also i want to ask a girl out but i have acne i dont want to get turned down and im not that good at talking to girls that r pretty. please answer me!
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reader, jerrel +, writes (17 December 2009):
 well like the dude below me, i say not to bring it up, cause he might just be trying to forget it, and if he trys to spring some 'thats sinful' shit, its ok, cause his just trying to get around the fact that your growing up and all that shit.
and just start out by talking to her a little at a time, and if shes not a bitch to you, or at the very least is nice to you, and then ask her out, or to hang out or something, you know, to get to know her and all that stuff.
whatever, its your decision in the end, but i hoped i helped lol
have fun!!!
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reader, DoubleM +, writes (17 December 2009):
 Contrary to at least one responder's advice, my suggestion to you is to say nothing about it to your dad unless he brings it up. If he does say something, just say something like, "Well dad, I thought it was quite normal." Because it IS normal, and he knows it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 December 2009): Chill out it is normal. Oh there is one crazy woman on here that might tell you differently. The woman who's husband prefers masturbating over her. She will tell you it is evil but trust me 90% or more do it including your father. For the second part, you need to develop some confidence. Nothing is more attractive then confidence to a woman. Try listing some of your good qualities on a piece of paper and look up some ways to develop confidence. No need to be nervous everyone is turned down at some point so if she is not interested accept it with grace, consider it her loss for not wanting the chance to get to know a great guy and move on. The acne thing is no big deal, most teens suffer with this. If it is really bad you could have your parents make you an appointment to see a doctor about it. It is a treatable condition. Good Luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 December 2009): Masturbation Issue: I would not worry about it too much, as I am sure he has had plenty of experience in this department himself. There is nothing wrong with masturbating, it is a completely natural and safe way of exploring one's body. The biggest question I would have is where you were conducting your little deed. If this occurred in your room, perhaps you should ask your family members to knock before they enter, so as to respect your privacy. If this occurred somewhere else, then perhaps you should reconsider where you engage in such activity. Other than that, there is not much more you could do other than speak to him directly about the situation, but that probably is not necessary. Again, I think the biggest issue is to ensure your privacy is respected to a reasonable degree.
Girl issue: Acne is also a normal part of life. Unfortunately, there is not too much that can be done to combat it. I would suggest washing your face every evening and every morning, even if you take a shower on a daily basis. You might find it helpful to try different acne products if the ones you are not using do not work. However, it is not necessary to spend a great deal of money on these products. The products at your local Wal-Mart or Target will due just fine. If you continue to suffer serious issues, perhaps you could talk your parents into scheduling an appointment with a dermatologist in order to get you something more powerful to deal with the situation. Aside from that, I would say to just ask the girl out if you are comfortable doing so, don't worry about your acne. It is likely that your acne is not going to lessen up simply for you to ask a girl out, so you should just build up the confidence and do it before someone else takes the opportunity from you.
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reader, dazey  +, writes (17 December 2009):
Forget about your dad catching you masturbating, it's a brilliant story which you can tell when you're older and more confident. Everyone masturbates at some point, and if they say they don't they're lying. I'd be surprised if your dad ever mentioned it again.
Make sure you wash your skin properly two or three times a day, get into a routine of good personal hygiene. I would recommend hot water with a couple of drops of tea tree oil in, not too much as it can burn. When you've washed your skin, splash it with cold water to close your pores and brighten your skin up. Don't let your skin dry out even if it's greasy in places, I use wheatgerm, olive or almond oil very sparingly on dry patches. Don't use astringent products like spot treatments- they're a con. At a push, wipe the most greasy parts of your skin with witch hazel but go easy as red, irritated, dry, cracked or flaky skin will be worse than acne and make the acne look even worse.
Because you have acne, take extra care with your other features, acne's one thing and many people suffer with it at some point, but you don't want to be misjudged as skanky because you aren't taking pride in the rest of your appearance. That should give you more confidence to approach pretty girls.
When you talk to a girl make sure you have something to say and come across as confident, not arrogant. Girls like a good story... make her laugh if you can. Talk about what you know and you'll be naturally confident. What are your special skills, interests or hobbies? Research this girl a bit...What would impress her without making you seem like a try-hard (turn off)? If she's got a sense of humour maybe you could tell her the wanking story? Be careful though, as you know teenagers embarrass easily and you don't want the prudes to rip it out of you. On second thoughts, save that one for college/ your best man's speech.
Finally, if you get turned down, don't take it to heart, move on as if you didn't need her anyway and it's her loss but don't be nasty about it. The more mature you can be, the more attractive you will be too.
good luck
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