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Custody and domestic violence issues

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Question - (15 April 2010) 5 Answers - (Newest, 27 April 2010)
A female United States age 30-35, *oxy7727 writes:

i have never been to court for the custoday of my 5 yr old and my 2 yr old and im there mother but when me and there father split up my son was in pre school so we decided together to let him finish the last yr of his pre school in the same school because it was a special school and they would live with there gradpa and we would swith off weekends and ther g pa is there fathers dad then they would come home with me well i hear from the small town that he is planning to not give them back. if the police were called when i went to pick them up permanetly would i be able to take them?

on top of all this there father recently sexually assaulted me about 2 months ago

There father is living with his father and the kids now. he has a record of domestic violence from a few years back

i am having trouble deciding with everything if he should be in there lives i want whats best for my kids and i grew up without my dad and its hard

my son gets out of school in less then 2 months should he still be in ther life and if so should he have viaitaiton without a superviser?

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A male reader, RAINORFIRE United States +, writes (27 April 2010):

RAINORFIRE agony auntGlad to be of service hope things work out for you

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A female reader, foxy7727 United States +, writes (16 April 2010):

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foxy7727 agony auntthanks for the feedback i have a lawyer already and to rainorfire ur advice helped alot i do have a good male friend who is going to come with me i do want him in there life and i want my boys back home more then anything my 5 yr old had speech problems and was behind in learing but the school we put him in specalized in the fields he was slow in and now hes ready to go to regular kindergarden thats why he had to stay in the school distric so he could be where he is today then the agreement was he would come back to my house in westerville school districs and home with me and his brother was with him so he didnt feel like i was abandening him im over ther daily my kids r still my world even if they dont live with me at the moment this was what i felt was best for my kids but thanks for the advice

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A female reader, Miamine United Kingdom +, writes (15 April 2010):

Miamine agony auntCall the police and then get a lawyer.

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A male reader, RAINORFIRE United States +, writes (15 April 2010):

RAINORFIRE agony auntI would suggest getting your lawyer or get one if you dont have one and find out the deal before you go and dont go buy your self bring some one another man if you can. im not sure what your legal rights are, who has legal custody of the child if you two just made a bunch of verbal agreements be prepared for a fight aka legal battle.

secondly their boys maybe they should be with there father my question is do you want them to protect them or because you just dont want him to have them,

well i hope you do get them i guess it would be hard mothers do have an attachment to their children they came from you and all i guess rightfully they should be yours you did all the work mostly.

any way get a lawyer call this guy up and get the facts.

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A female reader, Laura1318 Malaysia +, writes (15 April 2010):

Laura1318 agony auntIf you called the police when taking your son , they will have to hand them over to you unless they break that order by hiding and taking your son to another secret place.

It will be good if you can involve the father in the son's life . You should not deny a father's love to the son but if he is violent or his behaviour is unbecoming of a father,he will need a supervisor during his visitations.

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