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writes:Hi there,I have been in this relationship with my girlfriend for about 10 months now. But lately I am depressed, when i asked myself ; 'why?' I came to the conclusion that this current relationship is depressing me.She is very indifferent about my feelings, And I always try to be mister nice guy. I have the feeling that she is walking all over me. For example; -She hung up on me one time, when I cried and wanted a talk with her. -She never ever apreciates the nice things I do for her. To be honest, I cant remember when i was genuine happy in my life. I found myself smoking more and more pot to be 'happy'. And im only 18 years old now, Ive got a whole life in front of me and I am very concerned.I want to adress some issues, but I dont know how to. I feel very stupid when talking to her, i just cant express myself without crying. This makes me feel a lesser man, my dad once saw me crying over this girlfriend and all he told me was; You are 18 stop crying about that girl.I want to have a confersation with her on wednesday, but I dont know what to say, what to adress, how to NOT cry.thanks all of you for the wonderful support in the past, this site rock.
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reader, Full moon temptress1  +, writes (4 May 2009):
Hi,it seems to me that you may need to sort out some issues.Its a pretty big statement saying'I can't remeber when i was genuinly happy in my life'Go to your Doctors and tell him how you feel about things.xGood luck.
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reader, Polite Fellow +, writes (4 May 2009):
Like the previous guy said it is a chat that is needed. however with your emotions getting out of control and her inability to take in how you feel it won't be an easy conversation.she might know that she isn't very good at understanding and discussing personal intimate matters, that may be why she avoids it. It doesn't always mean she doesn't care. Its like me with my girlfriend, if i text her about a tv program or something light hearted I'd get an almost immediate response, if i text something intimate or deep it'll take her ages to get back if at all. Its not that shes not caring, just some subjects seems to scare her or freeze her up.Maybe you guys are both at a stage in your life where you don't know whats happening, and you are both reacting to it very differently.
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reader, GrimmReality  +, writes (3 May 2009):
 Young man,You should never feel bad about showing your emotions. after all you are very young.Try this...just a thought. Sit down with her and in order to diffuse what could be a potential powder keg, begin with telling her honestly what you like about her, and then be HONEST about what is bothering you and give her a chance to respond. Although we always like to think that our S.O. should know what is bothering us at each moment, we are humans, and not mind readers. It may turn out that she has no idea that this is bothering you. But don't accuse right away...don't say things like "You don't do this and You don't feel that". That is a surefire way to chase her off, and I can tell thats the last thing you want.If the shoe was on the other foot wouldn't you want her to be honest with you?I know this is a scary proposition, but if you are with her, please accord her the respect of your feeling for her to tell her EXACTLY WHAT YOU ARE FEELING!. Even if its gonna get emotional, so be it. Be honest with her and yourself.
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reader, GrimmReality +, writes (3 May 2009):
Young man,You should never feel bad about showing your emotions. after all you are very young.Try this...just a thought. Sit down with her and in order to diffuse what could be a potential powder keg, begin with telling her honestly what you like about her, and then be HONEST about what is bothering you and give her a chance to respond. Although we always like to think that our S.O. should know what is bothering us at each moment, we are humans, and not mind readers. It may turn out that she has no idea that this is bothering you. But don't accuse right away...don't say things like "You don't do this and You don't feel that". That is a surefire way to chase her off, and I can tell thats the last thing you want.If the shoe was on the other foot wouldn't you want her to be honest with you?I know this is a scary proposition, but if you are with her, please accord her the respect of your feeling for her to tell her EXACTLY WHAT YOU ARE FEELING!. Even if its gonna get emotional, so be it. Be honest with her and yourself.
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