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writes:If a male teacher has a family (a wife and a son of 3 years old) and had a crush on a quiet, hardworking student at school 2 years ago, 2 years later, on the day of her graduation, will he still remember and miss her?Do you think he has forgotten her as she is too shy and nearly never talked to him for almost 2 years(but they are still in the same school in that 2 years and had seen each other occasionally)?That young lady is me. I have just graduated from my college but I still miss that teacher. But I am too shy that I nearly hadn't talked to him for 2 years. It will be odd if I tell him I will miss him after I am graduated. I took picture with him. When I took picture, I softly whispered Mr... and he whispered my name too! But that's it. Even yesterday in the parting ceremony, I didn't talk to him and neither did he. Now I feel really really regretted and sad. I just want to seek for some comfort here and know if we still can be friends in the future. I am going to study overseas and I worried that when I come back a few years later, he is not working in that college anymore.
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reader, Emily Ophelia  +, writes (6 March 2012):
Hey there :)
Funny story, something not that different happened to me a few years ago. Despite having a boyfriend I had a major crush on my philosophy teacher. He had a girlfriend at the time (they now have a little boy) and while I wasn't terribly shy around him I knew it would NEVER ever work out. In no way. Yet, we got a long rather well, especially since I wanted to become a philosophy teacher as well and I was rather fond of his teaching methods. So, long story short: I had a crush on him which even I thought was rather ridiculous, we got along, when I finished school we stayed in touch and write an occasional email here or there. It's quite nice, but not at all in a creepy way^^
So, yes, sometimes you and your teacher can be "friends" or something like that but NEVER EVER try to snatch him away from his wife and child!
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 March 2012): My Dear, you must move on!
He is married with a little boy.
It does not matter if he thought, dreamt, remembers or misses the hardworking student, the fact remains he is not available.
Do not regret not doing anything, or saying anything. It is an unspoken crush, many of us had one on our teachers, or else ABBA would not have had the song about "When I kissed the Teacher" ;-) believe me, it passes and you look back and wonder what you were thinking! ;-) heehee
You admired him, you respected him, you learnt from him, but he was your teacher, and for a time, he gave you dreams to dream of a future with love, which you will have, with your own Prince one day.
Follow your dreams, go overseas and spread your wings, be successful and work hard, and achieve all you ever wanted. Do not worry if he will still be at the college or not, he is not for you. He is taken.
Rather, start dreaming of the man you really want. The qualities you admire, and look for it in a single pool of guys around you. The right one for you will come along, and he will be free to be yours, for you to share great love with.
Wishing you a happy future ahead,
xxxx E
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 March 2012): He's married hence off-limits. Period.
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