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anonymous
writes:I have a friend who is totally straight girl, her personality attracts me, she's 18 but act in a cute way as 8 yrs old by the way i'm lesbian. Our friendship is unique because she always tease me or bully me, but recently she's been kind to me little by little i mean yeah there are still does teasing and bullying moment but I think she's different. Sometimes she'll touch my hand but before she never did that. I'm confused bec. of her being nice now, do you think she had a crush on me? or she just love teasing me?
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reader, Aunty Honest  +, writes (24 February 2011):
 Dear anonomous,
Unfortunately there is no direct answer to that question. However, you seem quite convinced that she is straight? In which case I'm afraid there is nothing you can do. Are you comfortable with discussing sexuality with her? Does she know yours or have you ever talked about hers?
The way I see it you have two choices: the first to go on as you are which you may decide is not what you want.
Or two: to talk to her. If she has no idea you are a lesbian perhaps tell her this first and see how she responds, as this might give you some idea as to whether or not she is flirting with you. If she does know then talk to her about it? While this is a risk in terms of your friendship, it's up to you to decide which is the better option.
As an aside, you say she teases and bullys you? If this is all in jest, then that's fine, but make sure you are not allowing yourself to be mistreated because of your feelings towards her.
Hope things become clearer soon.
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reader, firstlovelastlove  +, writes (24 February 2011):
 I am just one man but I had a similar situation happen to me with a gay man. As aunt honesty says, I think the best thing to do is to talk with her about it. That way you'll know for sure if she has a "crush" on you and you two will be able to still be friends. I wish both of you all the best!
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (24 February 2011):
 The only person that can answer this question am afraid is your friend. She is the only one that knows the truth. If you feel like she may have a crush on you and that her behaviour has changed towards you then talk to her and tell her how you feel. It sounds like she is a close friend therefore it shouldnt be a problem talking to her and being honest with her. Does she know you are a lesbian? If so then talk to her about it and see where you stand with her. Goodluck.
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