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writes:I'm a 19 year old female, single and have never had a boyfriend before. This alone worries me a little since literally everyone I know has had/ is in a relationship.Without sounding conceited, etc. I would consider myself attractive. I notice men will check me out whenever I go out but the only men who approach me are the creepy,leery type asking for my number, clearly after one thing.Yet, none of these 'normal' men I see looking EVER approach me. What am I doing so wrong?
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 April 2013): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you for your answers!
Actually, I don't think I like the idea of a 'nice guy', I much prefer the idea of a man overtly approaching me..it's just always the wrong men.
I mean, these guys are far too old and just come across as weird...you can see exactly what they're after.
For example, I bumped into a man I used to work with and he tried to get my number and wouldn't take no for an answer. Then, he offered to pay for my number, he wasn't even joking.
Now, I wasn't trying to say that 'any' guy who overtly approaches a woman is instantly creepy. But, it's only men like the one I mentioned who bother to approach me.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 April 2013): It sounds like you want someone to take a "nice guy" friendly approach with you. There is nothing wrong with that. But I hope you realize that most guys spend their teens learning a hard lesson not to use that approach. Not if they have the slightest inkling of any romantic interest in the girl whatsoever. Young women overwhelmingly respond better to guys making overt passes at them.
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reader, desperatenottobealone  +, writes (28 April 2013):
Have you considered making the first move? I personally am very timid around women that are attractive and don't want to bother them by being forward, and I know I'm not the only one. If they don't go to you, find someone you find attractive and approach him. I think most guys these days would be open to a girl approaching them rather than the other way around; I can't be the only one.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 April 2013): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionZippy78: I don't go clubbing or anything, this is just what happens while I'm going about my usual business. For example, in the town centre, on my way home from college.
Typically, I just wear jeans, a top and cardigan and flat shoes....nothing special.
When this stuff happens, I'm alone; just minding my own business.
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reader, CMMP +, writes (27 April 2013):
There are a lot of women in your position and it usually has nothing to do with what you're doing. You'll just have to put yourself in more social situations that help you actually get to talk with men as opposed to being "approached" by them.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 April 2013): Perhaps they are intimidated by you. Perhaps it would be better to get to know guys as friends through shared interests rather than waiting for a stranger to approach you. More likely to have a chance of actually getting on and therefore having a real friendship and relationship.
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