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writes: Alright, so here's the dealio: I've got two options. I've got the girl I'm dating now, "Courtney". Now it's all find and dandy and we've almost been dating 3 monthes. Also I took her v-card, and we used the "L" word. But it's just recently come to me that another girl likes me, "Emma" i used to like her alot. Now at first it didn't bother me, but then she told me she liked me, and of course me being me, i started liking her back...Now here are the rest of the facts: Courtney is much more intelligent, but not as attractive while Emma is gorgeous in my opinion but not so smart. They are both seniors while I'm a junior but Courtney will be 18 while I am still 16 opposed to Emma who is not even a full year older then I, which i prefer. But Courtney knows me and i know her and her family. There are just so many factors to take into consideration, but i just cannot continue contemplating because my brain can't handel it. I would feel like a super huge dick dumping courtney for emma especially since they are friends, actually more like aquaintences, none the less, I hate dumping people. What to do?! Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 November 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHey guys thanks alot, even though not all of you you were too nice to me haha. Well those are some good points, maybe courtney does deserve someone better, but she just told me tonight she loves me more then anyone she has before and hopes we date for a while. I told her i loved her back, because well, i do. Like this whole courtney/emma thing kinda got worse when she left for 4 days to go to a catholic youth retreat, and i hung out with emma. but now that shes back i realize i did miss her when she was gone. it just always makes me curious what would happen if i would of chosen a different route when other options arise. i feel bad about it though too because what if like courtney did the same to me. i thought about that too and would be like really mad. And i would be really sad if courtney dumped me too...i just wish emma would like move away lol. Like then i wouldn't have to deal with this anymore. you guys made alot of good points and got me back on track. its almost like things were pointed out that i never thought of after almost 3 monthes of dating. unless it's too late to stick with courtney, i'm pretty sure that's what ill do. Any other thoughts?
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 November 2009): seems like emma is the one YOU shouls be with because even though courtney sounds like the better choice you obviously don't like her that much if you considering emma.
Your not being a dick if you finish courtney because there is no point being with her if you thinking about dating other girls to be honest.
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reader, Accountable  +, writes (22 November 2009):
 I personally feel that Courtney deserves somebody who wants and loves her unconditionally - and that means somebody who isnt just going to think about leaving as soon as somebody more attractive becomes available. I feel sorry for her, because it sounds as though she's given you a lot, but its clear that you're not fully appreciating her and she deserves somebody who's going to value her above anything else. I suppose what I'm trying to say is that if you truly loved Courtney, you wouldn't see this other girl as an "option" at all.
As for Emma, I would have severe doubts about somebody who tried to split up a relationship in this way - as quiet-echo says, at the moment i'm sure its flattering to you so you don't see it as a problems, but i'd have huge doubts about starting anything serious with somebody with this amount of moral fibre.
Good luck, I hope you don't end up hurting anybody too much either way.
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reader, A1exander123 +, writes (22 November 2009):
At the end of the day, you have 2 choices, but if you hate dumping people, don't dump Courtney for Emma, because as well as make you feel like a dick, it would also make Emma and Courtney hostile to each other, and make them fall out. Thats my opinion anyway.
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