A
male
age
30-35,
*eyland-Yutani
writes:I recently discovered I'm bisexual and now I've got a crush. There's this guy at my school who is good looking and really friendly towards me, he's one of my favourite people in the world. I always felt some form of love for him, even before I started questioning my sexuality. I suppose my situation isnt helped that I don't want to come out to anyone. Anyway, I'm 99.9% sure he's straight, although when he talks to me, he always sends xxxs at the end of his texts. But I thought to myself "If you don't try, it won't happen." So I sent him this email."OkayI know I'm a complete coward for doing it through email, but I doubt I'd have the balls to tell it to your face.First, please don't tell anyone about this, I'm embarrassed enough as it it.The point is that I've been thinking about myself a lot lately and when I've been talking to you, I've felt...I don't know, I've felt something different. I mean you've always been there for me, and I just feel...different. I know you probably know what I mean and I know what answer you're 99.9% going to give. I just wondered whether you wanted to...you know, do stuff together a little more often.As I say, I know what your answer is going to be, and I won't be surprised if you feel a little odd and don't want to talk to me after this, I'll understand. I just needed to let you know, I was going nuts not telling you.I hope this doesn't affect our friendshipGreg (Me)"He still talks to me, and he hasn't mentioned it. He also hasn't been online since I sent it which somehow tells me he hasn't read it.What I want to know is whether you think this was a stupid thing to do, the right thing to do, or both.I also would like to know whether you think it could really work.
View related questions:
crush, text Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
female
reader, sunnycomet  +, writes (23 November 2009):
 I'm glad to here that! :)
A
male
reader, Weyland-Yutani +, writes (22 November 2009):
Weyland-Yutani is verified as being by the original poster of the question I DID IT! I TOLD HIM! He said no, of course, BUT I STILL TOLD HIM HOW I FEEL! And we're better friends now :D Thanks all for all your support :D
...............................
A
reader, anonymous, writes (26 October 2009): If you were offended its because you are looking for the answer you want to hear. Reality bites. But it sounds like you have already made up your mind of what you want to do and think so dont ever ask for advice if you really can't take it. you want the truth right????
If my good friend came onto me since I am not gay it would be embarrassing for both of us and very incomfortable for all. He could forward that e-mail to anyone he wanted.. It sounds like you are very young and not ready for the harsh realities of the real world. Of course I wish you luck. I am sure he has read it and is avoiding the whole thing. Have you read his body langauge is he flirting with you. Anyway good luck take care
...............................
A
female
reader, sunnycomet +, writes (24 October 2009):
:) Keep me updated on what happens.
Good Luck!
...............................
A
male
reader, Weyland-Yutani +, writes (24 October 2009):
Weyland-Yutani is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks SunnyComet. I'm gonna give it another week and if I don't hear from him about it, I'll probably try again.Anonymous;I've been going over myself over the past few months and I've had tons of support. Now considering this, I'm pretty sure I know what I am. And what I am is bi. Also, do you have a personal relationship with him? I do, and although I HOPE, keep that in mind HOPE that he's gay/bi too, I'm pretty sure he wouldn't beat me up or have me beaten up. He likes me (as a friend of course) and he's always there for me. I doubt he'd jump on the "All-Hate-Me" bandwagon just because I told him how I really feel. Also, he hasn't signed in on messenger since I sent it, as I said. So unless he's been somewhere without messenger but with internet, I doubt he's read it. I also am very well aware that he's a friend I like. I love him and nothing changes that. Finally, why would he be embarrassed? I did it privately over email. Worst case scenario in my opinion is that he'll just start avoiding me, which of course I don't want, but it's what I deserve really for not looking before I leap.Sorry if this seems curt, but I was a little offended by your answer
...............................
A
reader, anonymous, writes (24 October 2009): You are just curious not gay or bysexual.. This could ruin you. Hes not gay, he did read it and it is hard to understand what you are really asking in it. So if it comes up just say dude just wanted to hang out more and do guy stuff not gay stuff. Be very careful writing anything down with your name, people could find out. Your not gay, hes just a good friend you like. Quit while your ahead. He could be so embarrassed because hes not gay, he could beat you up or have others do it... No it won't work out.
...............................
A
female
reader, sunnycomet +, writes (24 October 2009):
He could be confused about your e-mail. He's not a mindreader and probably doesn't know what you are talking about. If I had just read the e-mail and not your question then I would have confused.
You can try again but this time make yourself clear.
Good Luck!
(If he is bi or gay then it could work.)
...............................
|
