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writes:I am married to a man that can never see his own flaws, but yet he can always point out my flaws. It's like he has to be right because he is the head of the household. I am aware that he may know he is wrong, and just have so much pride to actually admit it. Do anyone know if this can be a sign of a mental illness? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 September 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you all for your helpful answers.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (29 September 2010):
Sadly, all signs point to him just being a jackass. There's nothing here that would show a mental illness. I'm afraid you're married to an arrogant jerk.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 September 2010): Yeah big time arrogant man. No one is a perfectionist, no body. How dare he put himself on such a pedestal. He's trying to maintain his ego. Dont forget, admitting flaws about oneself is very difficult to do especially with a mate. Heck, I dont admit flaws unless people point them out to me and then I openly think about it. The guy may also have communication issues too. Meaning, he may be afraid to talk to you about his flaws because he's worried about your reaction. Ive always been a fan of the "sandwich" method lol when giving criticism. One good thing, one bad, one good. If you guys are always focusing on the negative of each other, it could be hard to actually give a good criticism because there's nothing positive in it and that comes across as nagging. Also, when the flaws are pointed out in a emotional state ( i e if someone is angry toward the other) that persons instinct may be to be defensive. But if its appropriately brought up in a normal conversation, things could be more productive since the emotion is removed and that could enable more opening up. Hope this helps. Best to you :)
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reader, Miamine +, writes (29 September 2010):
 No mental illness detected, sounds like arrogant, controlling personality.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 September 2010): Not likely a mental illness, just a jerk.
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reader, Cerberus_Raphael  +, writes (29 September 2010):
 It is more likely to be simple arrogance than a mental disorder.
I hope that helps.
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reader, Jmtmj  +, writes (29 September 2010):
 Yeh it can be, but need more info/signs.
Its more likely that he's perfectly normal and its just the way he is.
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