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writes:In 2007 I started dating a guy that was 8 years older then me. We had a great relationship and dated for 10 months when I finally found out he was MARRIED. when I confronted him about it he promised to leave his wife for me but I didn't believe him or even want to let him get the chance so I broke up with him right away. I was heart broken but knew I couldn't live as the "other woman". Fast forward 2 1/2 years and he suddenly calls me up in December and tells me he never once meant to hurt me and that all the times he told me he loved me he did. He said he divorced hsi wife a few montsh after we broke up and has been single since and taht he thinks of me everyday. Then he showed up at my hosu ea few days later , mid day and in tears saying he hated himself for what he did and if I woudl jsut let him explain then maybe I could see he wasn't a bad guy. I let him in only so he could say his piece then go on with our lives. But instead as I listen I realized that I loved him more then ever. I checked out his story and HE did divorce his wife shortly after we broke up. We have been talking daily since december but I'm afraid to let him in. I'm afraid of getting hurt by him again. even though he seems to want to bend over back wards to amek me happy. My question is , should I forgive him, and is there a chance that "once a cheater always a cheater" just may be wrong in this case
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 January 2010): He did lie to you very badly and cheated on his wife. Two things that make him out to be a bit of a creep. And why did it take him 2 and a half years to fall down at your door? I think he might just be going over old ground for want of new material at the moment. Protect your heart and dont be suckered into anything by a few belated tears. If he had loved you he would have told you about his situation not lied to you. Trust him if you will, but id be very careful.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 January 2010): Ask him, what was it that made his ex wife special? What happened to that special factor?
What is so special about you? Is it truly unique, or can it be found elsewhere?
Could that specialness about you disappear in his eyes, like his ex's did?
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reader, To A New Life  +, writes (2 January 2010):
When you look at him, and when he's not with you, what does your gut tell you?
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