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writes:Hi everyone. This is the first time I've ever asked for advice on-line so I apologise if I start to rabble on. First of all I am a lesbian. I normally don't notice things like this but I've been wondering if maybe my ex-girlfriend still likes me. Honestly, I still have feelings for her. I know she must have liked me a reasonable amount at first because she had been in a relationship with someone when we met and she broke up with her for me. We broke up about 6 months ago (we were only together for 2 months) and have remained friends since. It was a mutual decision so there were no hard feelings. Lately we have been chatting about things that we never discussed before. We don't live close enough to meet up regularly (we broke up because we lived 2 hours away from each other) so we talk on line. She keeps flirting with me but I don't know if she realises it. For example she had asked me randomly what my fetishes are and I told her that I like being spanked. As soon as I said that she told me that she was going to spank me the next time she sees me. As well as that, we keep talking about our relationship and she always uses words like "amazing" to describe it. She constantly tells me that I'm pretty and that I have a great personality and always reminds me of the night we met and what attracted her to me. She also said that when we meet up next week she wants us to meet alone (I said she could bring a friend if she wanted and she said no). A friend of mine said that she thinks my ex still likes me but my ex sometimes tells me about girls that she has a crush on. My friend said that she might be saying this to see how I react so she can work out if I still like her. Maybe I'm just being hopeful but do any of you think she might still have feelings for me? I really wish I knew because I don't want to risk ruining our friendship if she's over me but I don't want to miss a chance. Thank you all for taking the time to read this
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 July 2011): As hard as it might be to do this, you just need to ask her what she is feeling towards you.if she says well we are far apart so i wanna just be friends,well at least then you will know. You are a bright, capable woman.. you dont need to wait for her to tell you what she is willing to give you. If she says she wants to try again, well then you need to determine if your heart is in "that" place. Love is grand when it is real, but listen to youre heart
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reader, k_c100 +, writes (7 July 2011):
 Well it does sound like there are still some feelings there, how strong they are is another matter and strangers on the internet simply cannot tell you that.
But one thing I do want to say - you broke up because of the distance, so what makes you think it would be any better if you got back together? You havent moved closer to each other, so the exact same problems would arise if you got back together, so it would be pretty pointless really wouldnt it?
Just stay friends - you broke up for a valid reason and you would still have the same problem if you got back together, so dont waste more time and get hurt again when it doesnt work out for the 2nd time.
I hope this helps and good luck!
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