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26-29,
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writes:Hey guys I need of some very general advice. I Jane kinda had this thing with this girl for ages and now I am almost definate that i want to be with her. I'm gunna give you a lot of background info so that you can understand as fully as possible.Ok so it all started at my youth group and she showed a particular intrest in me (we had met once before very briefly) and that included hugging sitting on my lap eye contact keeping conversations going touching and asking if she could kiss me on the cheek. This was about 4 months ago now, after that I started liking her a lot. I was always texting her and thinking about her, about 2 weeks later I finally plucked up the courage to ask her if she liked me back (I have some insecurity issues) and she said she liked me a little still but she used to like me a lot. So I tried to forget about her, and I asked her randomly what our situation was about a week later and she said she was seeing someone. I then got with a girl who liked me after I thought I was over the first one, while in that relationship the first one told me that she was upset that she didn't tell me she liked me when she did because the person she liked she can't be with. She said she knew she missed her chance. I broke up with my gf for other reasons but I know I want to be with the first one, last time we saw each other she was all close to me and arguing flirtatiously ( if that's a word) :)So long and boring story short I want to be with her now but I need some clues to look out for to see of she likes me or would get with me if I asked. Please advice and anything I can do to try and get her to maybe be more interested.Also does this ever look like it end in a relationship??
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reader, k_c100 +, writes (7 July 2011):
 Ok just stop messing around and ask her out! She has told you she liked you and she felt she missed her chance, so clearly she has feelings for you (even if they are up and down). There is no point in waiting around for some signs she likes you - because she already does and has told you! If you wait for more signs then you could miss your chance, so stop messing around with each other and simply ask her out.
If she says no, then fair enough, that is it - over and done with once and for all. If she says yes, great!
I cant say if this looks like it will end in a relationship, to be honest you both sound far too immature for a relationship with all this flirting, then feelings fading, then going out with other people, dumping the other people, and now going back to the first girl - this is all very childish and there is nothing to indicate that this could last or not, when you are teenagers messing around like this often relationships dont last anyway because you are too young to handle being serious with each other.
All you can do is just get on with it and ask her out - at least that way you will know where you stand.
I hope this helps and good luck!
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