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female
age
41-50,
anonymous
writes:So last night I had a date with a guy I met on a dating site a few days ago. He's the one who actually contacted me first and after quite a few emails we decided to meet for drinks. I thought the date went well and I found him attractive despite the fact that he's 10 years older than me (he's 41). During the date, he told me that his 2 previous gfs were 22 and 23 and he seems to be the type of guy who is not ready to commit yet. So anyway, the date actually ended early after just an hour and a half, not because it was boring or anything but I really thought it was much later. And he didn't offer to move on to have dinner. I thought the date went well, we laughed, talked a lot etc but when I got home and texted him to ask what he thought, he said that I was nice but there were no "fireworks". And I'll have to be honest, this is the first time I am rejected after a first date. I think I am very decent girl and usually I am the one turning down guys. So what gives? I've been trying to understand what happened. Could I really be that off about how the date went? I do have a tendency to over-analyse things so here i am again. Just wonder if we met too soon or I should have made the date last longer, and so on...really how could he already know he's not into me when he sounded like he really was on email...
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reader, Blonde68  +, writes (19 January 2011):
One thing you should be grateful for, is the fact that he was honest with you and told you that there wasn't that spark there for him.
There could be a million reasons why he said this, and unfortunately you will never know. However, you have stated that he told you his two previous girlfriends were in their 20s, so perhaps that is what it was.... he likes younger girls.
We all hate rejection, but we can't float everyones boat, so I suggest you brush yourself down and move on.
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