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writes:Dear Cupid,This may be an odd question, but I don't know if I've possibly already lost my virginity. I've never actually had sex, however, being pretty in the moment, I've gone to certain extremes during masturbation. It's rather embarrassing, but a year or so ago, I wanted to try a little more than fingering. I had heard of dildos and wondered if I could use something in place of an actual dildo. In this case, a vibrating tooth brush. The tooth brush was wider than a normal toothbrush and perhpas longer, and I'm wondering if maybe I lost my virginity to a toothbrush. I can live with this, I'd just like to know. I don't remember extreme pain or bleeding, but there may have been. Any thoughts and opinions would be appreciated. Thanks everyone.P.S. My feelings aren't about to be crushed by the way, I see the comedy in the situation.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 February 2011): A lot of women masterbate at an early age. I wish the internet was "invented" when I was a pre-teen. I thought I lost my virginity to a toothbrush holder. I hated myself and felt that I was dirty and a whore and that no man would want me because I wasnt a virgin and didnt lose it to a person but an object. Wow. A lot to think about when you are a pre-pubescent young child!
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reader, k_c100  +, writes (4 March 2010):
 The answer is no, you have not lost your virginity. You only lose your virginity when a penis enters your vagina. Masturbating (whether that is with your fingers or other objects) is still masturbation, not sex therefore you cant lose your virginity when you are performing a sexual act on yourself.
Not everyone experiences extreme pain or bleeding when they have sex for the first time, as it is quite common for the hymen to break without you even noticing as some sports can break it, plus using tampons and masturbating can break it too.
So rather than judging virginity on a small piece of membrane, it should be based upon the actual act of sex itself.
I hope this helps and good luck!
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reader, Boredatwork +, writes (4 March 2010):
 Nope, you can only lose you virginity to a Penis :)
However it is possible/likly that you broke you hymen in the process... But this dose not make you any less a virgin than anyone esle.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 March 2010): My answer would be no, you didn't lose your virginity to a toothbrush. We all have to put things up there - tampons, speculums (for pap smears) and a Dr won't tell you you've just lost your virginity to a speculum! So don't worry about it. Losing your virginity isn't specifically a physical thing, it is more than that. SO when you first have sexual intercourse with a partner, dont tell him you're not a virgin - because you ARE :) The toothbrush was just a bit of experimenting, don't worry about it. And if you enjoy it, do whatever you like! It's your body, and no-one ever caught anything from their own toothbrush.
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