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writes:Im currently in a long distance lesbian relationship. Nancy (girlfriend) is wonderful to me. I feel insecure about my weight. Im a big girl. I keep getting this sick feeling in my chest that Nancy may be losing interest in me. When I visit her we use to go to bed together at the same time. Whether we were going to have sex or not. I had no problem with sometimes Nancy want to stay up late. This is going on every nite. I'm only there to visit for a week. We have sex now 1 time per visit now. Nancy stay's up and come to bed after I go to sleep. Watching TV or playing games. We only been dating for 10 months. I know she has a stressful job. I try to be understanding. I feel like its me. She called me about a month ago let me know one of her co workers Celia she supervise over would be coming over to her house to braid her hair. I had no problem with that at all. The phone call I received while Celia is what bothered me. Nancy called and ask if I seen a certain dvd around the house. She couldn't find it. She told me they were going to watch it together. I was crushed because that was the first movie we seen together as a couple. It's a very romantic movie. I told her that while she was on the phone with me. I didn't know I was on speaker until I heard Celia said AHHHH. I was saying to myself why would you and her be watching it together? I could see her taking the dvd home watching it with her boyfriend. I didn't want to show my insecurity so I didn't say anything.The day before our 10th month annivesary Nancy let me know Celia is coming over to watch the movie. I felt so hurt because she is going to spend the day of anniversary with Celia.I know it sounds like Im jealous. Maybe I am. I have a funny feeling in my chest and stomach there's something more. I'm looking for good advice to help relive this feeling and move forward. Help!
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 February 2013): Try asking her if everyhing is ok because your feeling her pulling away...maybe you are just seeing something that isnt there or maybe u two need to address some issues in ur relationship, goodluck ps i dont like that she did this dvd thingy the day b4 ur anniversary, not cool but maybe she didnt realize it...chexk it out keep us posted goodluck
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reader, Caring Aunty A  +, writes (24 February 2013):
 What I understand is; Celia has a boyfriend, which suggests to me she is heterosexual – straight; and you are the romantic between you and Nancy?
Even though this DVD holds sentimental value to you (or both); it still is a ‘chick movie’ where perhaps a boyfriend would not relate too and is best shared with another female friend, which happened to coincide with your anniversary.
Once you start reading more into this or over analysing a situation; of course you’re going to get funny feelings etc. Having expressed your insecurity with weight; there are things we can do about that regardless of who we’re with – right!? Yet, if Nancy doesn’t mind the extra cuddly bits; so be it. :)
Take Care
CAA
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