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writes:ok well i just moved back in to my parents house n im 17 im currently seeing this 19 year old without my parents knowing. could i get in trouble for being with him if my parents find out. plus he says he wants a baby buti dnt know if he wld really stick around! u dont know what to do? Reply to this Question
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (11 February 2011):
 You are a minor and he is not , so yes, technically he's breaking the law and you'd better be on the downlow for another year. Also if , as a parent, I would not be so upset about a 2 years age difference . What I'd be furiously upset is that there's a guy trying to convince my 17 y.o. daughter getting pregnant - that would have me foaming at the mouth.
Honey, I hope you are not serious are you ? if you are not even sure he'd stick around- why are you even considering it ?? It would still be a bad idea if you were sure he loves you and he'll stay with you- but you are not even sure, so it would be just insane. What do you want to do, make a baby just to "be nice " to a guy... who'd maybe disappear in a few weeks or months ??
Why do you say you don't know what to do, when it's evident : say no and always use contracception. Did he say or imply that he is gonna dump you if you don't do what he wants ?
If this is the case- that should tell you a whole lot about him, and about your relationship, and would confirm that your parents SHOULD be very worried !
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reader, jayronae +, writes (11 February 2011):
 the 2 year age difference isn't bad, tho it is considered illegal. I know my parents would have been upset tooAnd don't give into him wanting a baby! would you be able to support it? A baby is permanent. For the rest of you life you will have this child to care for. Newlyweds are even told not to have a baby within the first year because it sometimes takes time to adjust and learn what it is like to be a married couple. And married couples have been together for years (usually) and are getting this advice.And you have the right to be worried he could leave you even if you do get prego. you both are young. You will meet many other men as u get older. don't tie yourself down with a baby. If he is the one for you, he'll understand and wait for a child with you.But if he tries to say "you must not love me since you won't have a baby" maybe u should consider leaving him. A man that truly cares wouldn't demand or get make crazy assumptions like that. You should get to know him and grow as a couple without the stress of a baby. ps. don't give up any of your dreams. decide what you want to do and live it. do what you want. you only have one chance at life. If you want to go to college to be a fashion designer, chef, biologist--do it. Its easy to go with the flow of life, but if you go with the flow how knows where it could lead? You have the ability to make a life for you.My mom had me when she was 17. she gave up a lot. A lot. I sometimes feel guilty (though i know its not my fault) and wonder where she would have gone in life if she didn't have to stay home and care for me. She is still with my father but they have had many problems over the years. I can't help but wonder if she never got to meet her mr.right. (i'm 21, so not too far off from you :p) Imagine being just 38yrs old and having a 21 yr old child!goodluck xo
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