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writes:Basically I've gotten really close recently to one of the managers where I work (not my manager so has no real authority over me). The problem is there is quite a big age gap, I'm 19 and he's 35 neither of us has a problem with the age gap but I'm abit worried about what people at work would say if we were to get together. I really like him, and its taken me ages to find someone that I could have proper feelings for since my last boyfriend. Do you think it could work? or should I just give up hope before anything starts?
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 December 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you for your time and commetns sue90 and maverick494, you've kind of given me hope that things might work out, I guess I'll just have to see how it goes.
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reader, maverick494  +, writes (8 December 2010):
Hmm, age gaps at your age are always tricky. At 35, he may be ready to settle down while you may want to go to college, see the world, etc. You´re at different phases in your lives right now.
I´m not saying it can´t work. If you two are pretty much on the same wavelength it could actually be nice. But if you´re looking for a longlasting relationship you have to think of the future as well.
Whatever you do, never let "what others may think" influence your decision. It doesn't matter what others think. What matters is you becoming happy and if it's with this man, so be it. Just think it through and if you think it's worth a shot, go for it.
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reader, sue90 +, writes (8 December 2010):
Obviously it's up to every single person if they approve of a big age gap or not. If neither of you are bothered with it, you shouldn't be bothered about what anyone else thinks. In my experiences couples with a higher age gap have a higher success rate than marrying someone who's the same age.
And you can always be surprised by how others think. As an example, one of my best male friends is 16 years older than me (we've never been together, we'll never be together), and everyone always comments about how "cute we look together". You never know unless you try.
You do have to consider tho as it is in your workplace there could be a possibility of people who don't approve starting to mob either of you. Be prepared for this case, but don't give up hope for you two!
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